What is Female Sexual Issues
Sexual dysfunction or sexual malfunction is difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (which includes desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) that prevents the individual or c...
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so...about 3 months ago i moved out of my home state for law school--but right before i moved i met a guy when i was out bar hopping with my friends. Every now and then i would get a text from him and i would respond--but it was a quick text and lengthy time in between texts--well recently his text have increased--i asked to be his friend on facebook--becuase i was drunk that nite and also a lot of time has lapsed and i don't remember what he looks like--i just remember that i thought he was cute (but who knows what i would think now)... he has no pics of himself on facebook....
a little background info... So the thing is i always tell myself my life would be great if i had a guy in it--but i realized that i always sabatoge my chances before the guy even has a chance at all becuase i just can't deal with it--i am terriffied of having a relationship--anything related to it makes me freeze up--even just a simple date becuase i fear intimacy--a date has the potential to lead to intimacy---i am just terrified--i am already anxious thinking about it so he just texted me and asked if i had any special plans over thanksgiving break...and the thought of seeing him made me terrified---i am all of sudden dreading going home when before i was excited---because now someone appears to be into me---i dont know what to do to get over the panick of knowing someone likes me and what that could lead to...(maybe it is my insecurities...of feeling overweight and ugly) but it has to be more than that---i just cant conceive the fact that someone would like me and the thought terrifies me another fear of mine is heights---and if you made me choose one to perform over the other i would say take me to the tallest mountain! this is not normal and i know i need to do something about it before i become the 40 year old virgin...or the crazy cat lady (i dont own any cats yet)...but what can i do Posted on 11/03/09, 09:11 pm |
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Have relationships always terrified you? Any idea what about a relationship is frightening to you? Commitment? Loss of control? Fear of domination?
Have you talked with a priest, minister, rabbi, or certified counselor about this? If so, what was the outcome? Sincerely, OldChurchGuy 
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u need to let go and let him like u, there is no better time than the present.
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Eliza,
I had the same fears and pushed everody in my life away. I went so far to feel satisfied by being dumped, because I could get satisfaction knowing I was right. I finally met someone and still terrified, everyday to get my heart broke, or not be good enough. It is normal. You are normal. I went so far as to stay a virgin for longer than what people normally wait for. The best thing is to be totally open to guys about what u want, dotn want, or dont know what you want. So give yourself a chance, be safe and meet somewhere public, and go out for coffee or something. Who kows right. FYI, Your in law school home girl, your obviously smart and shit that will get you laid before your forty . ... kidding-- go wit it !
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