Female Sexual Issues Support Group

I've never tried it myself, but I think the main thing is to relax and use plenty of lube. Throwing back a couple of drinks might help you relax. And I don't know if it makes a difference, but maybe he could use his fingers at first to kind of loosen it up down there. Again, I've never tried it, so my suggestions may not work.

ill that try that. cuz i did have an insident where i was doing doggy style with a guy and he puuled out to far and it went right up my butt! i was also drunk at the time so i think i was really relaxed but i didnt think about that till you said somethingi. thanks:)

You could also try toys, and definitely stretching with fingers before.

My boyfriend and I have tried it a couple times and it super freaked me out both times, but once I relaxed it was better. We never went more then 5 minutes because I'm not to comfortable with it yet, but what helped me is to build it up. Start off with him just stretching with a finger or two. Then be done with anal for the night. Then the next time do the same thing again but try to relax. Then, the next try the real thing. It takes time to get used to. I also find that it helps to use a vibrator for my own pleasure. Hope this helps!!!

there's a muscle -- i forget the name of it -- that clenches involuntarily around anything that's pushed into your rectum. some people are able to relax theirs, and some people can't. i gave up on anal sex a long time ago because i was never able to overcome that reflex, even with all the lube in the world. the only way i can have anything in there is if it's not moving (i.e. a dildo). i like the feeling of being filled in that orifice, but if it moves in and out, even slowly, it's too painful.

It took me almost 5 years to try anal with my hubby. Finally got the hang of it.
Lots of lube..or if you are so turned on, natural "juices" work better..for me anyway.
I find the best way for me to do this is missionary style. It feels more intimate and lustful, which in return makes me feel less vulnerable and more safe.
The initial inch or 2 is the most painful/uncomfortable. Just have him go super, super slow. Take your time..seriously. Let him kiss on your neck while he eases his way and takes your mind off of the "pain/pressure". Once he is in..don't let him thrust. Just get the feel of him bieng in there...bearly moving around. eventually you will move into full-on thrusts. Enjoy...main key is to RELAX!!!!!! it's going to feel like you gotta go poop..lol, that feeling will pass.