Female Sexual Issues Support Group

I'm 28 and have never had an orgasm, no matter what I try. If your boyfriend really loves you, he'll stick with you. As long as he's having his orgasms, there's really nothing for him to be upset about. It's possible that he could think that your lack or orgasm is his fault. If that's the case, I would reassure him that it has nothing to do with him or his performance. My inability to orgasm is most likely due to the sexual abuse I endured as a child, and I will soon be working on that in therapy. I'm not sure what yours could be, besides the fact that you're so young and it's often hard for young women to reach orgasm. Often times, our childhoods determine what kind of sexual experiences we will have, such as if your parents have taught you that sex is dirty and things like that. I'd keep practicing on your own and maybe speak to your gynocologist about it. Good luck!

I've been told (though I couldn't say for sure) that there are women who just are biologically incapable of orgasm. If you're enjoying sex, then I wouldn't worry about it. Ther are gels, lotions, sex aids and such to help but you'd have to try yourself to test their effectiveness.

If it's truly that much of an issue for you then I'd suggest talking to your doctor-- even if it's embarassing.

Also something to consider; you're still very young, it may be you just haven't discovered what you need yet. That's not your fault or your boyfriends fault. Try some alternatives to sex before you get down to it and see how you fair; toys, pornography, erotica, heck-- talking dirty even, whatever gets you going.

i never thought i could have an orgasm either i was havin sex for 3 years and it never happened but then finally it did nd i have one everytime i have sex now.try alot of clitoral stimulation and you have to be really into it thats the best way i got one.good luck!jus keep tryin n it will happen

I have somewhat of the same problem. Very rarely do I orgasm during sex. I can orgasm other ways, but it still takes awhile. It usually only happens with clitoral stimulation. Most of the time my lack-of-orgasm-during-sex really bothers my boyfriend. But I always try to reassure him that just because I don't orgasm doesn't mean I don't enjoy it. Usually that seems to make him feel better. Whatever you do, though, do NOT fake it. That made my boyfriend even more unhappy than the fact that I didn't orgasm. It was like a huge slap in the face to him.

OMG!!! I thought I was the only one!!! Best of luck!!! I hope you find the answer!!!

I have trouble orgasming during sex too, I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and I think i've come like 4 or 5 times and when I did it really wasn't that great. Sometimes I think it's because I don't know how, and sometimes I think that it's because my boyfriend doesn't do a good enough job of turning me on beforehand. I love him a lot but maybe sometimes this stuff is just that your not sexually compatible with your partner.

try to use vibrators, it worked for me, its explring urself

I have had...but rarely do anymore. I think an alterative environment where i felt less secure, general anxiety, lack of self-esteem and possibly depression was the original cause. It's been just over 2 years now.

I have discovered that mostly they can still happen but are very weak, despite all experimentation. I am going to buy a pelvic floor tens type device to see if an improvement happens before going back to the doc (and also talk to a sexual health nurse/gynocologist).

Anyone with this problem has my full support, i have been in a new relationship for a year and 8 months, my boyfriend knows all about this and is supportive, it's clear that it is not his fault, but it's best to be able to get your partner to be supportive so that you have the best chance :0)

most of the women complaint like same! I think you should try http://www.pro-medics.com/his-hers...

I can count the number of times I have had an orgasm during sex on 2 hands in the 15 years I have been having sex. I have been with my fiance for a year and a half and I have had 2 orgasms, which is a lot for me. I have just come to realize it is the way I am and it sucks. I also never want sex anymore. Things I used to enjoy, no longer satisfy me anymore. It is so frustrating. I hope you can figure something out!