What is Female Sexual Issues
Sexual dysfunction or sexual malfunction is difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (which includes desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) that prevents the individual or c...
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Hello everyone.
I was married for almost 14 years, then got divorced. I'm back with my ex, and it's been over 5 years now. We get along good. Not much conversation tho, because he works all day, and I'm home all day. Boring lives lol. Anyway, he came back in March of 2004. We had sex 2 times that month, and haven't had any since then! He says it's because I don't shower enough. That can't be all it tho, because when I shower on a regular basis, nothin happens anyway. He tells me he just doesn't have the desire he once had. For me, I can live with or without sex. Don't get me wrong, when we have sex, I enjoy it. I'm just not the one who would start it. I'm on meds for depression, and have been told that that could be the reason for my loss of desire. I also have another sexual related problem. Since I started havin sex at 21, I've never had an orgasm. I told my GYN, and he said maybe I have a mental block. That's just nuts. Why would I not wanna have an orgasm lol. It's not my hubby's fault. He's tried so hard to help me have one. I told him to not bother tryin anymore, that it's just a disfunction I have. Does anyone else have a problem with not havin an orgasm? Any advice would be helpful. Take care, Julie Posted on 07/03/09, 12:07 am |
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Welcome to the group, you will enjoy it here im sure. There is a very supportive spirit.
Alot of people have difficulty reaching orgasm. I can see you DO shower enough from your photo,so thats definately not the problem. 
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Hi! Welcome to the group..i hope we are able to help you find some of your answers. Do you ever ask your husband to take a shower with you? In my experience that usually leads to having sex more often. Also, Have you ever had a clitoral orgasm? More women than not are only able to achieve these kinds of orgasms.
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The thing that turns men on the most is a willing partner, and a partner who enjoys sex. My guess is that because you can take it or leave it, and he knows this, It may be putting him him of, cos he thinks your having sex for his sake. He's tried to give you an orgasm and your frustration has told him not to bother, being a man he would have taken this as a failure on his part.
I think you are capable of having an orgasm, Its all a case of how relaxed you are, and what your feeling about your self. If your home all day, i would try and change this, if its possible. Something as simple as going for a short walk round the block everyday can make a difference, its good for depression. You could have a word with your doctor and see if you can change the tablets.
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sometimes that idea of sharing a shower can backfire chelsea, I now have an 11 yr old son and a missus who won't even consider getting in a shower with me ,lol
but I must admit ...it was definately worth it, I'm a father of 6 kids, but he's my first 'biological' one,even though i class them all the same. if its any consolation, i have heard of some women who haven't been able to experience an orgasm until they're in their late 30's and early 40's, so don't give up hope . maybe add some excitement to things by introducing some toys or a vibrator if you and your partner are comfortable with it, could be worth a try.
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I agree with USTWO. If you haven't been able to orgasm, definitely try a vibrator. It will open up a whole new world for you. I can only come through oral sex or my vibrator, which is the unfortunate case of many women. If you husband is willing to try, let him! Just let him know that trying can't be straight penetration. He definitely needs to try in the oral department. Make sure that you take a shower immediately beforehand so that he can't have any complaints in that department. I know I wouldn't want my mouth on anything that I wasn't 100% positive was clean!
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