What is Female Sexual Issues
Sexual dysfunction or sexual malfunction is difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (which includes desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) that prevents the individual or c...
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how do you know if your truly attracted to someone?? especially if its someone of the opposite sex?? I mean I like guys...like having sex with guys...well at least the 2 guys who i've had sex with i enjoyed it, but every now and then i think of a certain person (a female) and im like wow wonder what it would be like to be with her? she's not the first one i've thought about,just the one i've thought about the most and in terms of maybe an actual relationship (she's very straight though so yeah that wouldn't work would it? plus she has mental and emotional problems that would hurt me). soooooo yeah I'm Bi- k thats alright, not very surprising now is it?
something tells me stephen (my fiance)might not be to unhappy about that,i mean i really do love him and i wouldn't do anything to hurt our relationship, but what guy would be annoyed if their girlfriend wanted to bring home another girl? I think its the relationship part he'd have a problem with not the sex part therefor its off limits. now do I tell my Fiance or do I just let this be my little secret and try not to think about it? Posted on 09/09/09, 02:09 pm |
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I'd tell your fiance. Relationships should be based on trust and honesty, and if you're not letting him in on who you truly are, then you're not being completely honest. It's quite possible that your fiance would be more than willing to bring another girl into the picture, but that can often times cause problems in even the best relationship. 
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thats why im kinda unsure about t elling him, i mean i think he has a clue i point out hot girls all the time to him. and yes even the best relationships can get destroyed by bringing in another person..ive seen it which is what makes me not want to tell him....he's the type of guy who will do anything to please me and im afraid he'll do it only to please me even if it hurts him.
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If you have any possibility of pursuing a sexual relationship outside of your marriage, man or woman, then you should not get married.
And certainly you should not hold these kinds of feeling secret from your fiance. A lifetime is a very long time to repress a desire. You owe it to yourself and your fiance to put this out in the open before you take a vow with him. He may be fine with you having sex with women, he may not. But your ambivalence means you are not ready to marry until you've addressed this.
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some things are better left unsaid..
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i doubt i'm going to leave anything unsaid........
while i'd never actively pursue anything im hoping my fiance doesn't get paranoid or pissed at me..i love him to much to loose him
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Then treat this desire like any other desire for another person you will encounter in your life with him. Put it aside and focus on your primary relationship.
The gender of the person you desire is not really the factor in being faithful.
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jimthzz has a great point...
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I definitely agree with jimthzz advice. If you have no desire to actively pursue a possibility with this other person (male or female) just let it go or push it aside as just an attraction. The fact that you are Bi should still be a topic that you discuss with your future husband.
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YOU'RE BI-CURIOUS! Join the club. LoL. I'm on the same boat.
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Oh by the way, I recently told my husband about my curiosity after 5 years of bieng married. he was stunned, but getting used to the idea. He figures I am just opening my mind a little more. He won't allow me to have encunters all the time with women, but he said I can try it once. Just don't make a habbit out of it. For disease and health perposes as well as the fact that he wants to be the only one satisfying me.
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