Female Sexual Issues Support Group

When you use your hands do you use lube or oil, If you dont i would suggest this, I find the more i take my time and tease myself and build up to it slowly, the better the orgasm, its like the longer i put it off the stronger it gets.

my experiences with learning to orgasm were very similar to yours. you actually articulate the situation very well. i can tell you this: nothing a person does matches the intensity of a vibrator, so it's understandable that those orgasms are the most intense. i too learned to use a vibrator first, but learning to use my hands (when the vibrator finally broke!) was a revelation for me -- just as you say, it's very different. you sound very familiar and attuned to your body's reactions -- you already have a good start in that sense. even after i learned to come using my fingers, it was years before a partner could do it for me, and i think it was a combination of me being totally relaxed and unselfconscious with this person, and experiencing all the touch sensations ''in the moment''. i wasn't pressuring myself to come, because i wasn't even expecting to, but i guess being free of the distraction of trying to come actually enabled me to, f that makes sense. and i will tell you, even then, it was my partner stroking me gently with his fingers that did it; since then it's only been that and oral sex that will work with a partner. i didn't come from intercourse -- still haven't -- but considering that once upon a time i believed i could never come, period, i haven't totally given up on that yet, either.