Female Sexual Issues Support Group

hopefully he see your relationship as being more than size of your private.

What a jerk he is.

Inside the vig. is ridges which stimilates - messages - rubs the penis and head rim of the penis.

What a freaken jerk he is.

Due to tearing of giveing birth and if tear is toward from vig to anus then you can have a Dr to re shape the outter walls to prevent furtur tearing.

what a f-ing ego to thing that size actually has anything to do with it.
Apparently he's not skill and lacks alot of knowledge but hey he's your jerk who is mentally abuseing you.

Maybe he perfers butt f-ing and is trying to compair the feeling of the 2 in his mind.

sorry you hitch your wagon to un skilled and ungrateful jerk.

It's really difficult to figure out. I mean i had to have a 3rd degree episiotomy to get my baby girl out :( it just changed everything. We still have a good relationship....i mean the other day he randomly brought me home a ton of roses and chocolate just for "putting up with him". I know he loves me but it's like we try to be intimate and i just end up laying there feeling unsatisfactory. like it wasnt even worth the effort. And i dont think he's trying to be an ass when he brings up C-section or even vaginal reconstruction...but it's like he doesn't understand how big of a deal that is. He's like "well we've come a long way with medicine, it's not that dangerous or anything anymore" He's even brought up a surrogate mother!!!! And then cant understand why i would never want another woman to carry MY child! And we definetely plan to have more kids...we want three. But if i cant even be confident that i can make him happy, how is this gonna work? I'm already currently trying 3 different vaginal tightening cremes and pills as well as breast enlargement pills to make myself seem more appealing to him. The majority of my day is spent planning when to take the next pill....im spending my hard earned money on thing that i probably should be. that money should be going to things for my daughter but now every time i look at her I just cry. I just dont know what to do anymore. I'm a nanny for infants so i need to be in a good, playful mood and it's very difficult to achieve that anymore and that's affecting my job. I love him something fierce and that makes it hurt even more.

Learn to love your own body and accept it the way it is. When secured in & w ones self and in one own skin, then we are healthy and yep we feel sexy and, what others may say or think doesnt bother us for we are pleased w our own selves and please w our body.

No matter the position surely he knows to stimilate the clitoris. Intecorse itself provides pressures but it similation of clit that counts w dreamy memory.

Clitoris is not altered during child birth. Sound like he just doesnt know what hes to do and he doesnt know what he talking about.

If its bothersome to your health - not just for his self serving mind pleasure at your exspence, you could have Dr to reconstruct you vig. Are you having dificult w bateria and infections and bladder infections etc...?
If not tell him to go f his self are tight ass male.
What a jerk he is.
Despite his beliefe, your vig nor him define who you are.

Okay I'm very new here, like as in a few minutes. I have to add a comment to this...

Your baby is only 4 months old! That means that your entire body had just undergone a major overhaul. From hormones plumeting up and down, to your body being pushed to it's limits growing and supporting a human life to the ultimate child birth. 4 months or 16 weeks is not a long time for your body to heal completely!!!! Dr.s say it can take up to 7 years for your internal organs to go back to where they belong after bearing a baby. If it takes your insides 7 years, its going to take the external parts more than 16 weeks! No not 7 years but geeesh give yourself a break. Tell your husband to give you a break also!!! For him giving up on sex after a few weeks is such a cop out! Let him try pushing a 7 lb watermelon through his arse and be back to normal in 16 weeks... he would never be the same!

Females have many things to deal with before, during and after bearing a child, is my tummy to flabby, is my boobs shrinking or growing, is my vagina ever going to be the same... worrying about *him* being satisfied at this stage in the game just shows his immaturity... useless worry from him is not helping you get back to being you.

I have a question... Did he watch the baby being born? I've known men who watch the baby come out and had issues afterwards thinking of that area as a sexual area again... their sense of sexual feeling towards their wife's v did return, but it was their issue, they also put it on their wife's sholders making it her burden to carry.

There are many, many things that happen to a womans body before and during childbirth including the natural process of stretching, if we didn't stretch we would tear, even worse than all ready happens. Some tear and some do not... tearing is on the outside of the v and like all cuts/tears will heal and probably all ready has, or your Dr would have OK'd sex to resume. Alot of men are ignorant to the scientific part of childbirth (ESPECIALLY young men, as they mature they learn to realize that 4 or 5 months of something or without something in this case is NOT a lifetime).

The pressure that he and yourself are putting on you as a new mom is doing more harm than helping.

Relax, eat healthy, excersize (even a little helps you feel back to yourself again), give yourselves time to heal physically and mentally. I've had 4 children and I can guarantee that life after baby can be just as good if not better with time and comunication.

Peace!

Now this takes the cake. He wants you to get vagina reconstruction because he thinks your not tight enough now!!!!! He wants you to have a C-section if you have another baby!!!! Tell him to have surgery to make his dick bigger. I agree with Admiral, he is a jerk.

hi i feared that when my wife gave birth but she was tighter as the dr put a few stitches in the end. she was worried too. this is serious if my wife was really wide it could cause big problems in the future. go see a dr and he or she will sort it out in 30 mins with a few stitches..............you husband is right and you have decades ahead.
look at it as cosmetic but i can save your marriage, I had a gf once who was really wide and i hated it............

i feel so sorry for you that your husband is so hurtful!! maybe someone should explain to him where a baby comes from!!! i understand that he wants your body the same as it was before you gave birth but come on, it takes time. tell him if he had a biggr penis you would enjoy sex better! what he said to you is beyond uncalled for. he wants you to have a c-section next time, lol does he not know what that will do to your stomach muscles! give me a break! as women, we are already very self consiance about our bodys post baby, we need our husband telling us that we are beautiful, not that we are loose!!! in my opinion he souds very childish!

after our daughter was born i was nervous about the same stuff, however my husband was awesome!! he called me beautiful and sexy and our sex life was just as good post baby as it was pre baby!

4 months isnt long to get your body back hunny. it takes time. dont let your baby of a husband make you feel less than. you carried his child and gave birth to it. he needs to think about that the next time he goes to open up his mouth...

remember that you are beautiful!

this is addressed to ADDbuster:

i have to say it's difficult to keep my mouth shut when all the ''advice'' you give serves a purely male agenda! i can't help but notice that your comments don't serve the interests of the people you are addressing at all. sounds awfully selfish to me -- what are you doing in the female sexual issues group anyway? do you think you can infiltrate the group and give women directions on how to please men in the guise of advice??? believe me, you're not saying anything most women haven't heard from inconsiderate lovers before.

i agree with wilson -- if losingselfvalue's spouse wants a tighter fit, he can get a penile implant!!