Female Sexual Issues Support Group

orichila -- sorry about misspelling your name, by the way. i just noticed i got it wrong, oops

No problem with the misspelling of my name! And I concur with no problem if he is with you when having a fantasy! Especially if it makes it more enjoyable! I think it is normal to have fantasy that harms no one. I have to say that we check out some porn out of curiousity and the excitement level dwendled fast! We just got more turned off from the watching of others than what we already had. I have to say I have been very blessed with my second husband. Already married several years longer than first and it just keeps getting better! I just wish I was able to help more! Chila : )

It might be worth just taking a look at your whole sexual relationship and what is going on there. It could be that porn is just an outlet for "something missing." I have enjoyed porn off and on for a long time. However, if I had the kind of unihibited sexual relationship that I want, I would NEVER look at it. Just a thought.

Pornography is never good for a marriage. Ultimately, it can lead to divorce. Just put your foot down. No one needs porn.

If you need to keep an eye on your home computer, use a product called SurfRecon (www.surfrecon.com) to detect porn on the computer system. If he knows you are watching, he is more likely to act responsibly.

Resource:
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"Pornography is never good for a marriage."
"No one needs porn"
these are awfully confident statements, considering that they contradict years of personal experience and observation. sure, you could make a case that no one ''needs'' to masturbate, or to have sex at all for that matter. in fact, i am curious about why no one in this discussion has bothered to clarify whether a person in the situation described by the original poster have a problem with porn specifically, or just the fact that their partner spends alot of time stimulating themselves with it. could it mean their partner is addicted to pornography? maybe. people can exhibit addictive patterns in almost any type of behavior, including excercise or other constructive things, so that doesn't make the behavior itself 'bad' per se.
i have no problem with pornography, or my partner's use thereof, ergo, it has never threatened any of my relationships. i'm not just using my own life as an example -- there are plenty of people whose lives are not negatively affected by pornography, because their attitude about it happens to be different from yours. i don't like to sound hostile, but i can't keep quiet when people dismiss the experiences of the rest of the population simply because they take such a judgemental position about sexual imagery.
there are plenty of good reasons to get divorced: dishonesty, infidelity, death of a daughter/son, emotional or physical abuse, any number of profoundly life-changing events, etc. (even fidelity is not necessarily a concern if a couple is polyamorous.) i am going to conclude that a marriage is awfully fragile if it can be destroyed by pictures/videos of sex acts.