Female Sexual Issues Support Group

I really don't know the answer but if this helps you, you might want to go to the Porn Addiction community and ask the members there, they might have some useful information to give you.

I'm a member to the Sex / Pornography addiction community here on DS. I really think you will find a lot of answers if you ask the question there as well. I think it sounds like he has a problem.

My boyfriend has that problem... he'll be on the computer for hours at a time but I unfortunately don't have the problem of him not wanting sex.... I do think you should talk about it though.... jndoe is right though, I'm also a member of that group and they seem to offer alot of good advice.... Good luck and I hope you find the answers your looking for in the Sex/pornography addiction group....

Thanks for your input I will definately check that out!

It will not improve on its own. You have to have a dialogue with him about it. It will be very uncomfortable, but it needs to get brought out. See Robert Bishop's posts in Sex/Porn addiction. He's quite active in that community and pulls no punches. Online porn can be both addictive and destructive and it needs to be addressed. Good luck.

If a guy looks at porn on line it doesn't mean he's gay..

Is this why he doesn't want sex with you..? Not sure....but it sounds like it.. Has he shared with you any issues he might have with your sexual relationship..?

As some have suggested, he may be addicted to porn... It's my understanding that this addiction can lead to meeting people, etc. Talk through this and get some counseling now - before it becomes a major problem..

your husband seems like a f*cking ass hole.. I'd be pissed BIG TIME!! you should never suck that mans d*ck and give him sex until he stops that prono shit.. how would he feel if you were all into porno and never wanted to do him? I HATE MEN

Talk to him about it, Try asking if you can watch the porn with him and see if that leads to sex. Doesn't mean hes gay either if that was true every guy I know would be gay and 85% of the girls I know would be to.

There is a directly correlation with watching TOO MUCH porn and cheating. If he does not cheat, that is his way of being with someone else. I will say, my sister's husband was cheating, she put an end to that, now he watches porn A LOT more than he ever did. There is apparently a strain in the relationship that he feels he needs to do that. Yet, some people are just addicted to it. I would certainly discuss it with him and tell him how it makes you feel.

On the flip side, maybe you can watch it together and have some fun? you think that would help?

Hi. I know someone who was addicted to internet porn. I don't know if he still does it. He ruined two marriages bcoz he could not control himself. As his addiction worsened he became harder and harder to please in regards to sex. Pornography is very damaging. Men do not appreciate normal healthy sex after a while. They begin to crave things that are not normal. Normal is not good enough. They appear bored during normal sex or shun it all together. This is not your problem. It's his. But if you choose to ignore it, it will not go away by itself. I would confront him and suggest a good couselor who has experience in dealing with pornography. Since when did it become ok for a man to engage in visual foreplay with a woman that is not his wife? Hopefully he is willing to get help for your sake. We all make mistakes, but we always have the ability to choose and to change. Good Luck.