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It is awful my life without my wife dosen't seem to make much sense. I try to understand for my kids sake, but I wonder if they would be better off with somebody else. Someone to give them the attention they need. I have ZERO intrest in anything at all, it is a struggle just to step out of bed everyday. Now what?
Posted on 08/20/09, 12:08 pm |
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Hello,
as i understand your wife just passed away, is this correct ?? If so you are going thru the very tough grieveing process, and you need to do this, but the children don't understand either...You seemed very depressed and should get some help now, that will help you to beable to stand this terrible situation right now....My prayers are with, as i am also living with with my fiance who has terminal kidney cancer and i don't know if my advice is the best as i haven't not gotton to that stage yet....Please know that my thoughhts and prayers are with you daily.. Please take care, Beccanne 
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My dad passed away in January 2007, and my mom gave up on life and succumbed to cancer 6 months later. Although my sister and I were adults (I was 27, my sister 21), neither of us is married or with a family of our own. The distance of my mom, and the helpessness I felt trying to reach her will be with me forever. I felt/feel sorry for her while at the same time resenting that she gave up on her children, and these are hard feeling for me to face still after only 2 years. I don't know what the dynamic of your family is, but for me it was comforting just to talk to my mom for 5 minutes before she would tell me she loved me. I think that for your kids, the feeling of loss will only be magnified if you send them away. Do you have anyone that can come and stay with you and your family? For 2 weeks we had family in and out for a couple days each, and that person maintaining some sort of scheduleis invaluable. This really helped us break the "feeding off each others grief and misery" cycle. I encourage talking with a health care provider about your options, and I will keep you in my thoughts!
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what it's like, although I'm afraid I'll know all too soon.
Do you know that there's a Widows & Widowers support group here on DS? I take peeks sometimes - don't want to "jinx" my poor husband, but it does appear to be very supportive and people seem to understand all the different feelings you'll have, the inability to make decisions or have any energy, etc. Perhaps it will help you some. Again, I'm very sorry for your sorry. This "till death do us part" thing - gosh, I never took it literally before - it stinks.
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