hello as you all know my dad passed on the 20th. I have a sister who has hurt my parents so much within the last 5 years. she abandoned them 4 years ago when they didnt agree to sell their house and move with her. she was slowly taking over their lives. she started pushing away people from their lives. friends, grandkids, kids.. when my mom and dad finally had enough they told her to stop and that they are no longer moving. she got upset and said they abused her and she left. she was gone for two years. i would call her and tell her when my parents were sick or have problems and she said she didnt want to hear of their problems. my mother fell in january of this year she hit her face on the counter. she broke her knee and the side of her face was bruised. when i told my sister of this she said she didnt want to hear it. and why was i calling her. well my mom started to get sicker and then she lost control of her right side. this was because she has a blood clot in her brain from the fall. she needed emergency
surgery. well once again i told my sister and talked her into at least going to see my mother. she went my mother had major complications during the
surgery and we almost lost her. my father was completly devested we didnt know that at this time he had liver cancer in the final stages. we she started to trying to take over my mothers care and decisions for her health. she started pushing my sister and i away. not allowing us to discuss anything. she didnt want my mom to have
surgery. well we had an argument after my mom was discharged, (i stood two weeks to care for her 24 hours a day. when i had to
leave to go home.) she left one day without telling anyone that she was going and never came back. my father passed on the 20th and she wasnt even there for him when he was sick she didnt help with caring for him calling him nothing. when he was admitted into the convelescent home she tried to get an attorney to get him out and take him home with her. we knew this was not a good idea because she doesnt speak to any of us not even my mother, she even yelled at my mom on the phone (my mom is 80) telling her she was wrong to have my dad there. well my mom said she knew this weould be wrong because my sister wanted to separate my dad from my mom. she had a feeling that she would try and take over his finances and home etc. since she could not do this again she left . well she went to the funeral she made a scene like she was the one that was there for him always (this is something that we ignored) but my mom wanting to fix the problems we were having, so she talked to my sister and my mom told her sorry. my sister never said she was sorry for what she did she said we were all wrong. well this week she showed up at mom's telling her that she wants to help mom take care of all of dads papers and get my moms papers started. i feel like she is trying to take advantage of my mom. after all this time the only thing she wants is to take care of their finances? i am really angry with her. i still dont talk to her. help me what should i do!!!!!!
Posted on 10/01/09, 12:10 am
Sosorry you are going through this. Your sister is out to get what she can out of this sad situation. If your dad left a will it should be followed. I would imagine he would want your mom to have everything during her lifetime and then she should have a will also. Someone who lives close needs to keep an eye on things Maybe you will need a lawyer. 
