Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group

Well I try to put up barriers to abusive behaivour towards me, sometimes they work sometimes not, I learn as much as I can and gather all the info my little brain will handle, I try not to yell but do as much damage control as I can, I try to understand it is organic and mostly he has no controlm I have gotten him into counsling with me and have tried many times to find a good med combination that will help (trying again on the 15th) I have to have some space away from it and fink a good outlet for ME where people understand what is happening and are not judgemental, i have also learned not to "fix" everything he screws up and let him suffer the concquences of his own actions, tho often that filters down to me and I suffer along with him too. I prove I am there for him under my terms and support him in anyway I can without harming myself or my family, I find as much support as I can for myself and am finally learning to walk away when nothing else is working mostly for my own sanity........................It's a fine line and not easy, I am always remended of a song by Aerosmith the works "tap dancing on a land mine" are very accurate here............

EEK...............lots of spekking errors but think you get the jist of it...............

lol..........dang spekking errors???? too ironic huh!

change to SPELLING errors

I also still have the issue of trying to reason with him or defend myself which are both usless, in our case anyway, he thinks and belives what he does no matter how illogical or "provable" that he is wrong is, something I am still working on and have also learned that "talking him down" no matter how much sense it makes to me is uslell and just makes things worse, but still feel lucky to have each other and greatful for the good times..............

good topic :)

I listened to my wife when she said she felt like just getting away by herself and to be able to drop her masks.

I convinced her to setup a getaway. Later when she was feeling better and said she didn't need to be alone and wanted me with her, I let her know that I would not be going because she made it so very clear that she needed to be alone.

Sure enough, by the time the day came around, she was back to the point where she really needed to be alone.

Oh what a good partner am I.

Got very angry again to BP spouse so hard to break that habit................can't recommend it helping.....................:(.........

Please Please pretty please. I was hoping to keep this thread positive and supportive.

Lets find positive things that we do to help our loved ones who suffer with BP.

I read as many books a possible to learn how to help her, and avoid triggering her.

( Please don't feel stifled :-( , just start a different thread)

Well there isn't always a lot of positive going on, we are still dealing with it all but with the situation it isn't easy, uuuummmmmm i try not to take it personally but sometimes do and sometimes get so overwhelmed cause no matter what I do it does not really help..................just my reality here........................not going to apologize....................but yes ai agree anything positive would be welcome!.......................

When I sense that he needs 'space' (can become very broody in a sombre unpleasant way) I give it to him. At first, I'd try to get him to 'open up' & 'share' what he was feeling with me. Knowing when to leave him the heck alone has spared him stress & me distress.

Another thing we did was to take a serious look at sleep, nutrition & vitamins etc. What were we missing in our diet? What was changeworthy? He was surprisingly on-board with this idea. Since we began making these changes, he feels better physically & says he has more energy & doesn't become frustrated with himself over being too drained to do what he wants to.

QUITE NEW TO THIS SITE BUT REALLY FINDING IT HELPFUL.MY BIPOLAR MAN WHOM I KNOW SINCE TWO YEARS IS JUST RECOVERING FROM LOW EPISODE..NOT CONTACTED ME FOR ONE MONTH..A VERY LOVING AND PASSIONATE MAN.BUT AFTER THIS LOW EPISODE I FOUND HIM TOTALLY A CHANGED MAN .NOW HE WNTS TO END OUR RELATIONSHIP AS HE THINKS HIS BIPOLAR WILL RUIN MY LIFE.HRE I WOULD LIKE TO MKE IT VERY CLEAR THT I HAVE ACCEPTED HIM AS BIPOLAR N THE AGE DIFFERENCE..I M 40 N HE IS 53..HE HAS MAILED ME..N SUMTIMES TLK ONLINE..HE IS A VERY SWEET N NICE MAN..HE IS IN RECOVERING STAGE N I CANNOT LEAVE HIM LIKE THIS.PLZ HEP ME HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS N HOW TO HELP HIM..I CN NEVER LEAVE HIM SO PLZ DNT ADVICE TO LEAVE HIM..THIS SEMS TO BE UIET POSITIVE POST SO I CHOSE TO BE HERE..HELP ME..