Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group

Listen, that behavior is completely unacceptable.
My daughter is bipolar and so am I.
Married 29 yrs... never once have I hit my husband in anger.
The only behavior that your girlfriend should blame is her own.
Bipolar doesnt give you the green light to be immature and rude.
That is not what a relationship should be based on.
Sorry to be so blunt, but I thought it was important

Hi Laci-
Is she medicated and does she belong to any therapy groups?

Being BP or having any other mental illness is not a free license for unacceptable behavior especially violent behavior. I would venture to say if she is medicated then yes she uis abusive in which case run dont walk to your nearest shelter and dont look back as the recitivism rate for abusers is something like 97 or 98%. If she is not medicated she needs to be and once stable on meds if she continues to hit you then my adivce would be the same. Besst of luck.

most BP's use it as an excuse for everything....but it is not an acceptable excuse, my husband uses BP as an excuse for everything, our relationship, his lost friendships, the fact that he can't work, his anger and abuse and bottom line is its not a good excuse at all....I have learned through counseling that this is not my fault...and therefor not your fault either....

The behaviour itself is abusive regardless of whether the person is taking medication or not. You will not suffer a different set of injuries & pain whether you are pummeled by a medicated person or a non-medicated one. The absence of medicine coupled with the violence can become a catalyst for insisting that the partner rakes her meds as a condition of you remaining in the relationship. You cannot allow yourself to be in harm's way. Suppose a wayward finger or fist jabs your eye. Is that risk worth it? If this person IS taking her meds & is behaving this way none the less, it may be a sign that an adjustment to the meds is needed (something else, a higher dose, a lower dose etc.) & some therapeutic support. I am not suggesting that you abandon the relationship immediately, but this IS abusive conduct and you must act to stop it as it can escalate.

having bipolar does not always mean it is the cause of all problems.
and not all people who have bipolar use it as an excuse.
i think there are other issues causing this as you said.
i think the abuse and codependancy are more contributory to her behaviour.

i would seek help as soon as possible ,
as tumble said , this behaviour is competely unacceptable regardless of bipolar.

All above good advice, I can't think of anything to add....................hugs...............

Thank you all for your kind words, and blunt is fine with me. It is nice to know this is not MY fault like she says it is. She is on Medication but she even will say it is not right. She si not working and the insurance she is having to use only has 2 different meds she can be on and the other she cannot take. I am trying to get her in to talk to a counsler because I want to make it work. Thanks again for what you said and thanks for the hug.

i love being bp ,, yeah u can blame it on everything one day while @ the hospital i started screaming @ the doctor and social worker cause i was upset it felt so good