Family Issues Support Group

I apologize in advance for my rambling but I'm so annoyed! For major holidays (Easter, Thanksgiving) my husband and I switch off either going to my family or his. Even tho we have been doing this since we've been married, we still get crap from his mother, for instance last Thanksgiving we were with my family, and I had to listen to her complain how she never gets to see us, blah blah blah. Also keep in mind that we live just as close to my family as to his, however we see and talk to my parents alot more often.
That brings us to Christmas. Hubby's family INSISTS on having their Christmas ON Christmas day every year. There is never any discussion about changing it. My brother in law is divorced and has his kids on Christmas day every other year. He does not have them this year, so I emailed my mother in law and hubby's sister and suggested having Christmas earlier this year so that the niece/nephew can be there as well. After all, isn't Christmas supposed to be about family??
I got an email back from MIL stating that SIL would be VERY upset if we didn't have Christmas on Christmas day and my BIL already said his kids won't be there. WTH??? First I think its ridiculous that she doesn't even care to spend Christmas with her grandkids and then makes a big deal about how family is so important. Second, why shouldn't I get to spend Christmas with my family once in a while? I'm ready to say something.. that if she doesn't want to change their Christmas they will not be getting us for the whole day because it just isn't fair.
Please tell me if I'm being unreasonable. Should I just let it go or should I still up for myself and say something? I'm frustrated and it makes me not even looking forward to the holidays.
Posted on 11/02/09, 11:11 pm