Families of Prisoners Support Group

I'm sorry you feel this way. But has he hurt you in any other ways? Or are you just angry because he left you? My father went to prison when I was nine and he will be in till Im 29. Its horrible. If you need to talk, just message me.

What do you mean, did he hurt me in any other way??
idk why i hate him...
thanks... you to.

Forgiveness is one of the hardest things you will ever do. You can't change the past. It is what it is. You can look forward and find a way to prove to yourself that you are a wonderful person. What happened to you is so horrible. I have been there. You have a right to be angry. I hid my anger and took it out on people who loved me. I never let the anger I had for my perpetrater speak out. He was my ex husband. I didn't know that it would affect my life and my childrens lives. Both of my kids suffered because I couldn't get past my anger and self hate. You can't blame your brother, and you can't make him fix it for you. Your anger sounds like mine. I wanted it to go away. I wanted someone else to pay for letting it happen. You can't and won't be able to do this. Yell, scream, get mad. Don't hold onto it. I did for 18 yrs! Go to a counselor. Write a journal. Write your brother and tell him how angry you are. Who cares if he understands. He may not. But at least you can be heard. Then just send a note to say Hi. Just start with Hi. You may not fix your relationship with him but at least you can still be his sister. At least you can own your feelings again. Blessings.

Those whom use drugs are not making a choice of it over their loved ones....they are trying to find a little bit of happiness in the wrong places....or trying to drown out their own sadness and troubles.

Many times they can not see beyond their own pain and miserableness....hoping and praying life gets better somehow....but have no idea how to get there.

When someone goes to prison we always feel like somehow they should have seen it coming.....but this is not true....sometimes they just want their pain to end and they are caught up in using drugs to help their frame of mind be better. They do not see where the road is leading them or if they do....they just can not drum up enough feeling to want to try to change it anymore.....they have tried and can not see the way out of their mess....and believe their life is better with the drugs....so they continue until the rest of their life falls apart.

I would be very surprised if your brother had any idea you are feeling he made a conscious choice of drugs over you!

I pray you can find it in your heart to realize his pain was just too much! Maybe if he knew just how much you do care you can be a turning point for him....helping him to get rid of drugs in his life once and for all.

One other thing many are self medicating a problem with drugs that need a doctors help to get better....sometimes an illness or imbalance that no one knows about.

Hope you stick around and make friends....maybe journalling too to help you with getting your feelings out in a safe place.
I really liked what bremac said about just writing him....telling all....then start over with him....you might be very pleasantly surprised!

Love and prayers....for you and your mixed up brother!
Love Rhea

very good advice, Rhea! It is very easy to think people are choosing drugs over us, but through addiction education, counseling and experience, we come to learn it has nothing to do with us at all. We all battle our own issues...just that sometimes others get hurt in the crossfire.
Good Luck Sunshine