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Nicholas, my nephew is in prison for another 2 yrs 7 mons. His parents have all but given up on him. His brother sends him money usually every month. His sisters write when they can. I write him every week, let him call once a week, and buy his food baskets twice a year. I'm tired. I will not give up on him. But I think he has come to rely on it and takes it for granted. When do I get a break. He says he's sorry for what he did but I'm not sure he believes it himself. And I guess it is easy tobe pissed at me because the others don't write etc. And he thinks we should be happy to get his calls. I pay in the neighborhood of $50 a month just on phone calls.I love him to death. I have no control over anyone else. I hate him being in there but like they say you do the crime, you do the time. And I will not give up on him, I guess I just needed to vent.
Posted on 08/12/08, 05:08 pm |
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Hi... I am so sorry this is happening... I don't know exactly what to say to help you... but I just want you to know that someone is praying for you... 
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You go ahead and vent away!!! That is part of why we are all here! To support each other and all the trials we face while this is in our lives. Sorry you think he takes it for granted. I know my son as said it's often overwhelming to think that you are forgotten while being in prison. To have you, your nephew must be grateful, he just has lost part of his gratitude because he knows you don't have to, but you do anyhow. He can count on you, and that is not entirely bad! I am going to send you a great big HUG for what you do for your nephew! Sounds like much more than his parents, too. I am also sending you a great BIG HUG from your nephew, I am sure he means to himself. Keep your chin up! Hugs again, just cause!
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vent away. i feel the same way.
sometimes i wonder if my fiance is learning anything. by me sending him money, accepting 10 phone calls a day, and driving an hour and half each way to visit him every other day. yet i still dont wanna stopp... i totally get it.
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Sometimes it is overwhelming the cost of phone calls, sending money, the gas money for the long drive to visit, but I want to be here for my son and I know how much he appreciates that. I'm sure your nephew appreciates all you do too, your a good person to be so supportive for him, but I can totally understand the need to vent sometimes.
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I think your a very caring person but you may be right. He may not really believe he is sorry for his crime and that is an indication of something bigger here. If his own parents have lost faith in their own son, isn`t that saying something to you?
May I suggest you start to trust your own instincts and take care of yourself. Let your nephew not take you for granted another minute longer. This my dear is how I believe they, in fact we all come to learn life lessons. Hopefully he will.You can still be a wonderful person by teaching them how to grow.
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