Families of Prisoners Support Group

wow! i am left speechless. I don't understand why she would say that right now. It does no good for anyone! Be strong and know that what you two had before he went in is still there. Sometimes people say hurtful things when they are hurting. Remember the saying "misery loves company"?? best of luck to you! hope your ankle heals fast...HUGS!

Wow..it kinda sounds a bit like she is trying to corse problems that you guys just dont need right now. You know your man and how he feels.
I hope your ankle gets better soon huggggggggss

What is wrong with that woman??? Oh she is terrible. And it sounds like you two usually talk?? Maybe she is jealous of the attention you get from him. Some mom's cannot accept any woman for their son. None are good enough.

I don't necessarily really like my son's latest, but she is basically a good person, just a little snooty. And I don't like how she seems to not want my granddaughter around them. He has her kids all of the time, BUT I do not act like I don't like her. I try to just stay quiet. She has made him actually get a real job, and be very responsible. She actually controls him, which I never thought would happen. She made him dress more like his age, instead of the thug type clothes, he CLEANS the house, his car is spotless, and she gets my thank you for most of that.

Many people don't like the person their kids choose, but we don't have a right to choose who someone else loves. We just have to accept it. And it sounds like you and her WERE on friendly terms. Maybe its her way of being miserable and worried about him. She knows he talks to you, and writes to you and sees you at the prison. She is hurting for her son.

I never got jealous of my sons gf's. I just tried to like them, because it would of caused problems with me and him if I didn't. Recently I said something negative about his current one, and he flipped out on me, so I knew to shut up after that.

Having a son in prison is hard. They love you, but it is different than how they are with their gf's or wives. They miss the gf's more. When a son goes to prison, you really hurt, you feel like your BABY is hurting and you can't help them, and then when you feel that the woman in his life is the one that makes him feel better, and not you, that either makes you sad or really angry. A mom loses her son once a woman comes into their lives. He is no longer her baby. My son and I were very close, and its hard now that he doesn't seem to need me the same way anymore.

I hope hearing a little of a mom's point of view on having a son in prison makes some sense to you. A mom wants to protect her son/baby, and now it is the woman in his life that he turns to, that he misses more than his mom, usually.

I was lucky when my son was in prison, he called everyday. His friends put money on his account to call me. The friends that should of been jail too, but he took all of the blame so some would be out and helping us.

Maybe she is in her protective mode. Her son was hurt by his ex wife, and maybe she is testing you because even if she did like you, she is afraid you will leave her son while he is locked up.. Us mama bears protect our cubs no matter how old they are. She probably has heard all about his ex, and also heard how many women with guys in prison abandon them or cheat on the.

I think you should talk to her again, when you can do it calmly. I am sorry she did this to you, and really sorry you hurt your ankle. Been there, done that.

Just an eerie, but good side note.

As I clicked on my reply to this post, my son texted me, and said Luv U!!! Ain't that weird. I was sitting here thinking about him, and the mom vs gf thing and he text that. Now I am in tears.

Sometimes no matter how old they are, mom's still miss their sons. My son was a drug dealer for years, he got caught, he paid his dues to society as they say, and now in the end, he is doing very well. He is a success story, not all are.

So, he is still a mama's boy, just not the same way. Tonite after writing to your post, now I am wishing I could just have him around me a little more, and yep, I am jealous that between work and his gf, there isn't much time for me. Maybe your guy's mom is so sad and lonesome, she just said a really stupid thing.

Turn it around, don't be upset with her. Yep she said a vicious thing. Make her see what a good person you are. You aren't like the woman that hurt him so bad. Us mama's want to take our fangs out when women hurt our boys. I think she was just having a lonesome, sad, MOM moment.

Tell your boyfriend not to be horrible to her about it, but do tell him that maybe mom needs some assurances that you two are solid, and he trusts you and loves you. Us mom's just have to know our boys are happy and not being hurt. I guarantee his mama is hurting too.

sounds like jealousy to me. i am sorry that she said that to you. it was out of line and not her place at all! YOU know your man and how he feels! dont forget that! im sorry about your ankle! :( keep ice on it and keep it elevated..itll help the pain and swelling.

Definitely jealousy. She has lost her " little boy" like all mom's do to another woman. It happens, she has to learn to get over it. And it is the sadness of having him in prison.

I was thinking she sounds jealous. Maybe she is even a bit insecure herself. I also know that my grams hates when my dads gf rags on him. My grams never says a word to her but she tells me " I get so tired of hearing her bitch about him , if she's that unhappy she should.leave." its not that she's that unhappy I think she just feels like if anyone can relate it would a be an older wiser woman and its his mother. She isn't going to rag on him and fuel the fire. People can Be insensitive , she is hurting just like you hurt but for her , she raised a man who is incarcerated which reflects badly on her a smidgeon .