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On Nov. 16th it will have been a year since one of my best friends committed suicide. I really can't believe its been that long already, I feel like it was just a while ago I was hanging out with her, talking with her. A small group us is getting together over that weekend and I think we are all going to go to the grave site. I think thats one of the things thats making it hard. I haven't been able to get myself to go to the grave site since I started to accept that she's really gone. That and also the fact that the holidays last year felt tainted because of everything. I just feel like we will all be going into the holidays with a heavy heart. I don't know how to feel or how to handle it. Even though i didn't see her the night it happened, sometimes I dream or picture her falling and hitting the ground. I think we are going to try and do something fun that weekend so that we aren't depressed the whole time, get our minds off of it. After she died I went on an anti-depressant for many things and I just went off it. Because of switching off of it, I feel extra emotional now, and I feel in control now, but I dont know how I'll be then. How do you guys deal with the one year thing?
Posted on 10/25/09, 09:10 pm |
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God bless you as you go through this terrible time. I also caution you about withdrawing from anti-depressants. It can be very rough. I hope you have a compassionate doctor. I can't tell you about the angel date yet...ours is 5 mos. away. I can't stand the thought of it. I know we will need God's strength to get through it....Peace to you...Dale, Brandon's Mom 
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Thank you. I went off of the medication on my own because of financial issues I was not able to continue with the doc i was going to, and yes it was VERY rough but i made it through. Peace to you as well through this most difficult time.
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Try to remember the good times and laugh. Sometimes you'll be laughing through the tears but those are the healing kind. I know this sounds hard but I know my son wouldn't have wanted me to be crying the whole day he'd want me to remember the good things. I'm coming up on year two since I lost my 29 year old son and the pain never goes away it's just a part of your life that you absorb. It definitely becomes a part of you. God bless. Terri
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November 15 marks the third anniversary of G's suicide. It doesn't feel like it's been 3 years. I miss her terribly, especially around this time of year. I can relate to having the holidays ruined, since it was the week before Thanksgiving and Christmas was also extremely rough. Every year I prepare myself for about a month and I still feel all those dark emotions. Maybe there's something I'm doing wrong, I don't know.
I try to remember all those happy times. That's what gets me through this.
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The year anniversary is always a hard one. However, we celebrated our daughters life on that day instead of her death. We went out and ate pizza ( her favorite food). We had the waitress give us an extra plate and we sat it on the table in front of an empty chair as if she was sitting there with us. We talked about the good memories we had of her - funny things she said or did.
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what a great suggestion to celebrate her life rather than her death on that day...thank you all very much
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rhinking of you as this day approaches.....we got thru ours, November 1st, it was 2 years. It is best to have a plan, and you've got one.
Its best to deal with the feelings, too laughing about memories, might make you cry.........its all normal. Yes, it feels crazy, but its normal. God bless.
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I came here for the exact same reason...the aniversary of one of my best friends suicides is near the end of this month. I have made myself a small plan, I'm not sure it's great but it's something. And honestly, all I feel like doing right now is TALKING and THINKING about her and writing about her and making stuff for her, I don't feel like doing homework or anything even though I know I need to. I made a memorial video, for her and for me, telling her my feelings and how things have changed, using words and pictures and a special song. I find that creativity helps. Good luck, I'll pray for you.
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