What is Families and Friends Affected By Suicide
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My husband doesn't even act like we are married anymore been with him for 16 years, married for 9, ever since the day I married him and had children I couldn't call him even my friend anymore. Ever since my seizure disorder got worse with having 2 children, My friends got worse also because I couldn't drive for almost 4 years. No one cares. My own brother won't talk to me now, just talk about me with his wife. No one want's to listen to me or help. No one cares, even my own husband!
Posted on 10/15/09, 08:10 pm |
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I am sorry that you are going through a tough time. It makes it even harder when you don't have anyone to talk to. I can completely relate to that feeling.
Are you able to speak to a counsellor? I have been seeing one, and it has really helped me to sort through what I am going through. He has helped me to identify why I react the way that I do to the things that happen around me, and how to work through difficult times. It is important to get a counsellor who you feel comfortable with, because not all are as helpful as others can be. It can be difficult for family & friends to support someone when they don't know how to help them. Often people tend to give up, instead of finding a way. It is not because they don't care, it is just because they don't know how. I felt like I tried everything with my husband, and nothing worked. I was just so tired, but I always cared. Things will get better. We are here for you day or night. We will listen to you and help support you in any way we can. Post all your thoughts and feelings out, and you will see the support you receive back. I wish you all the best as you go through this difficult time. 
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I went to one counselor, he want to see me a few times then soon wanted my husband to come along. Then he only blew up at me saying it was my falt that he doesn't have any of HIS FRIENDS know.
I just made myself start going to a different one, because all I wanted to do was kill myself. Only went twice, don't know if is helping any yet or not. Every time I come home I try talking to my husband, suggest a thing or two. Doesn't get anywhere.
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Give it time...Talk to the counsellor for awhile, if they are a good fit you may not know it after the first couple sessions, but maybe in 3 or 4. Then once you feel comfortable with your counsellor, ask for advice on how to approach your husband. This process will take time, and I know you want to have your husband's support right away, but be patient and it will come. You don't want to erase all your efforts by trying to rush through the process.
Things will work out in time. I know it is tough right now, but you will see results if you keep at it. The most important thing is that you have a counsellor who you connect with and don't give up. They will help you to understand yourself better and then better deal with those you care about. Good luck. I wish you all the best as you work through this.
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It is a common situation that effects family/friends of those who are diagnose with a seizure disorder. I know it is not fair, but it is true that loved ones and friends that were close tend to drift away, in which medical science is aware that this exist among seizure patients.
A treating neurologist may recommend counseling in order to strengthen that family bond.
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