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I was just wondering if anybody else has dreams of their lost loved ones as I do. At first when he would visit in my dreams he didnt speak. But he was always there in every dream. Almost like a shadow in the background, but recently he began to speak in my dreams. they all have the same kinda idea that he wasnt dead but just somewhere else and now he's back. And then the dream is about that..(what happens when he comes back). My life moved on, but my heart is still with him. I wake up with a sunken heart when I realize it was just a dream. But I am grateful that i at least have that. Recently I had a dream that he, my husband, came back, but I was with my current partner, my babys father. my husband wanted me back, but I had to tell him that my life moved on and that I had a baby now. when I woke after that dream I spent the day questioning after life. people always say you will meet your loved ones on the other side. But I have so many more years to go. will he wait for me still and what if one day I would decide to remarry. What about that person. Is it fair to let someone else believe I will meet them on the otherside when I'm already taken ?
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You are so lucky that you can dream of him. For me, I was unable to dream of my husband for awhile. Then I had 2 nightmares of him. After that no matter how hard I tried I could not dream of him at all until last night. It was the first time he was present in my dream and it was so wonderful.
My biggest wish is that this is them talking to us from the afterlife. To know that he is okay now would make me feel so at peace, but unfortuantely we will not know until we have passed over ourselves. Throughout this journey I have read many things about what happens when you pass over. Some think that it is not the same as here, so if you had 2 husbands, you will see both in the afterlife as your souls are connected, but you will not be "in love" with them as you are here, but rather there will just be love for both of them and they for you. I don't know what is true, but I do find some of these theories quite interesting. If you get a chance, you may want to read some of the postings in the widows support group. I found it comforting. 
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there are many for whom i grieve, including, of course, my suicided sister. the night after she died, i'd flown back up east, where the family was, tho i lived in texas. i stayed in her bedroom, the one we'd shared. it's a small bedroom, and there are 2 windows catty-corner. i stood in the middle of the room, not quite understanding it was time to lie down. i was sobbing, knew most in the house could hear, did not want anyone to comfort me. then, a soft warm breeze blew in from one window, through me, and out the other window. it's an experience i cannt fully describe, and probably would feel cycnical if i read this from another post. but it happened. i've gone on to lose too many peple too quickly. yes,m occasionally i have dreams with them. they used to scare me. now i relish them, recognize them as a sign of grace, a chance to visit. be open.
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I don't really dream of my sister or other lost members of my family but I do 'see' them. Four days ago I saw my mother in the sitting room standing with her arms full of pink and white roses. She was smiling and she told me 'it will be alright'. I laughed and told her she was 2 days early for my birthday and that she of all people should know the correct date. Later that day the vet came and told me it was time to have my pet pig put to sleep so I knew my mother had come early to support me over my pig. I know there is NO death - our loved watch over us and try so hard to let us know they are with us. Oftern our grief is so raw that they cannot get through until we begin the healing process. When my sister killed herself I was so consumed with guilt, anger, grief that even when she did visit I couldn't bring myself to talk with her. Thinking of you all.
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I dream of my husband all the time. He overdosed June 12 2008. In my dreams he appears and tells me he didn't mean it, it was a mistake and he wants to come back. It seems so real I could touch him. And I wake up, for a moment thinking his death is a bad dream
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I dream of G. every now and then. It's odd to me that you mention him speaking, because G. never speaks in my dreams. I don't know if that holds any significance or not. The dreams used to torment me, I hated them at first, because it reminded me that G. was gone and wasn't coming back.
But in recent months I've begun to feel her. Sometimes, often at the computer, I feel a presence in the air around me and I know she's looking over my shoulder. As for being connected to one or the other in the afterlife, I can't say. But I do hope you find the answers you're looking for.
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I've dreamt of my dad very seldomly. No nightmare involving the suicide event, thank God. The last dream I had was of him and his sister running through a meadow and I was taking pictures of them so that they could have one last good time photo together. They were both so happy, and I was too. This was a few months ago, and it still brings tears to my eyes whenever I think about it. He seemed so alive and vibrant - something that he wasn't for quite some time before he died. I started crying when I woke up from the dream because I realized that it wasn't reality.
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Yesterday was the first time I dreamt of my brother (again last night) and it was 3 months since I got the call (to the day!) Unfortunately, it wasn't a good one. I dreamt I was like the "ghost of christmas past" and basically spent the last few days with him as an eyewitness to what went on and what he was thinking/feeling but, when I tried to stop him or comfort him or talk to him, he either couldn't hear me to pulled away from me. The worst part of the dream was when he went into his room and closed the door and I knew what was immediately taking place and I was screaming and yelling and trying to tear the walls down to get to him but it was too late and there was nothing I could do. I wish my dreams were comforting but they're not. Feel lucky that you are able to find some peace in yours.
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