Families & Friends Affected By Suicide Support Group

First, there is nothing you could have said or done to stop what your friend did. Her parents, I hope, were attending to her depression and suicidal thoughts with medication and therapy. Thirteen is a very early age to succumb to mental illness but the drugs and alcohol probably made her suffering much worse. It's shocking to me that so many children of your age (and yes, you are still a child) are into drugs, drinking, sex, etc. way before they're ready to handle any of that. One wonders where are THEIR PARENTS???

Talk to your mother about all of this. Yes, I know mothers and thirteen year olds don't often get along that well but trust me, she loves you very much. It's scary to be a parent, at times: you all don't come with a manual you know! And the world is not what it once was, it's quite intimidating in many ways and parents worry. Tell your Mom that you have a friend who is talking about suicide every day and that you have a friend who hung herself (she most likely knows this). Ask her to take control of this situation. As your mother, I would approach the mother of that girl who is suicidal and tell her. I know I would want to know if my thirteen year old were talking about suicide! This is not your responsibility, it must be handed over to an adult. Meanwhile, be as good a friend as you can. Remind her that the emotional devastation of her death to her parents and siblings and friends will be enormous and permanent. This might help her put it into perspective.

You're very young, you have much growing to do both physically and emotionally. All of this is much too heavy a burden to carry alone.

No one solves problems for anyone else. The best we can ever do is help people find their own solutions.

And telling your friend that it would "all be all right" is a bit dismissive. Probably better to listen, repeat back the things that she says..... and if and only if you understand....say that you understand. In other words, don't fake it.

Also NO ONE, not a kid, not a grown up, not a therapist, not even a parent should be the only emotional support for anyone. So anyone dealing with a friend that's feeling suicidal, should get help for that friend.

There are many reasons for that, not the least of which is that the hurting person needs to find a way through this world that's not totally reliant on a single otther person.

It's also too much for one other person to carry.

Most likely someday in your life you will need help from someone too. (I hope it's not suicidal feelings.) The same will apply to you....seek help from more than one other person....

Your mother, a school counselor, clergy.....please go to someone.

Your friend will need all the support she can get..I also struggle greatly with major depression & I've also attempted suicide; when I'm feeling at my worse, the loneliness and lack of support system is most pronounced..
Have her get professional intervention (help)& perhaps go with her to her appointments, if possible - she needs to understand that she isn't alone; isolation is a primary ingredient of suicide - take it from me, I know first hand..be the best friend you can be for her - it will also be therapeutic for you - helping others usually is..

my brother comittedsuicide in 1999 it has gotten better, it does take time, lots of time. be there for her let her talk to you be friend to her thats my best advice. g.ood luck to you, will be thinking of you