Families & Friends Affected By Suicide Support Group

I know you're sad, you just experienced the worst thing you could possibly go through. Don't give up, there will be better days ahead, I know this because I 13 wks out and I see the daylight some days. It's very painful but you have to go through it, talk about it, cry when you want or need to and come here to share with people who know what your feeling. Please try to hang in there. Beth

If you are feeling suicidal and that you can't cope. go back to the ER. This is a huge trauma. You are in shock. You need to be in a safe place where you can receive some medication as a short term way to help you. I know the psych ward doesn't do therapy, that's really not what they're there for. Some larger teaching hospitals do have group therapy. I don't know where you live but I want you to continue to LIVE. You WILL survive this. No, it won't be easy. The hospital should have given you recommendations to mental health professionals and psychiatric assistance for medications. If they didn't, find a bigger hospital even if you have to drive and go. Being alone and in shock and re-living this nightmare might not be the best choice for you. Taking your life is a huge mistake. You can survive this, there's some purpose for your life. Only God knows what you can do with this experience to help others.

Six weeks..I am so sorry for your loss. You're still in shock right now. I agree, if you are feeling suicidal, please go to the ER. Please don't leave. You are someone's light. Please don't let your light go out. I am so sorry about your wife. Truly. You may not believe it, but it does get better. Please keep that hope, that things/life will get better. I hate that you are on this journey with the rest of us. No one should have to walk this path, but we WEREN'T given a choice. Our loved ones didn't give us a choice. If they had, they'd still be here b/c we would have found a way. Somehow, we would have found a way. Blessings to you this day. Let your light shine, okay. We have enough darkness already.

I am so very sorry for what happened to your wife. And that is coming from a person who's been through the same thing. It has been over 4 years now since I experienced the suicide of a loved one, and I can tell you that it becomes more bearable in time. It never gets easier, you just learn to live with it. But for now, please try to keep in mind that your wife did not do this to hurt you. She was so very depressed that she could not see what she would be doing to you and others. I hope you have good family and friends to turn to right now. If you can find professional counseling, please give it a try as well. Be kind to yourself, and no matter how much you want to think otherwise, bear in mind there was probably nothing you or anyone else could have done to prevent this.

i have to thank everyone for their kind words cant write much but thank you all

give yourself time to grieve...and slowly but surely, do something, like take a short walk, go to a movie, go to a mall and have a cup of coffee.
I am sorry she passed on...You do need a counselor for grief, or a support group such as this with physical people to talk to...What you are going thru is normal....Medication would help, try to find a psychiatrist...Mental hospitals are awful so first see if you can find a
psychiatrist.

I know how you feel and i am so sorry for your loss. My brother commited suicide Christmas Day 2011. I have struggled for everything in my life and to tell you the truth NOHING has ever been easy for me! I have thought a lot about suicide myself as i cant seem to find ONE damn thing in life to want to live for. I have two boys (ages 10 and 13) and i use them EVERY day to keep me going. I make something in my life to live for every day.

I will tell you from my point of view being borderline suicidel every day. Find something to do. With friends or family is even better! DOnt do things you use to do with her for the time being , because that will make you all the more depressed and miss her even more. Find something new and use your time to work on things you wanted to get done for yourself. You need to focuse more on you and less on missing her. I know its easy for me to say that, because I didnt loose the love of my life to suicide ! She actually left me and went back to her abusive husband out of fear. I did loose my brother of 36 years to suicide that I helpped raise and care for and love and support. I do live every day even though I really dont want to. I understand and live your pain.

SO I say do some things differant then you have been and get out more. Lean on ANY support system you have there. If its GOD go to church, talk with a minister or priest. Take one step forward every day and before you know it the pain will be less then it was the day before. I am comming up on 1 year since my brothers death. I can say now that I think about him 4 to 5 times a week. For the first 6 months it was every day and most every waking hour of every day. Lean on us here and journal your feelings so you can get them out instead of bottaling it all up. Find what ever you have to , to get through this pain for a brighter tomorrow!

Best of luck and remember we are all here for you!