Families & Friends of Gays & Lesbians Support Group

I am fairly sure my cousin is gay. It has been a suspicion since high school, all my friends think he seems gay.

This is how I know he is gay: Last year he came to a bar with me to meet a guy I had met the week before and was interested in. The guy asked my cousin if he was gay (because he seemed like it and the guy said his brother was gay). My cousin said no, of course not!
The next afternoon, I meet the guy for lunch and he tells me that my cousin told him that he IS gay; he just hasn’t told the family and didn’t want to say it in front of me.

We used to be really close friends, and he never mentioned it. We grew apart during college years and I feel like that and his secrets are keeping us from being friends again. I just want to know the truth, he is so shy and quiet lately. I am completely understanding of the gay community. I was good friends with a few gay guys in college. It would never be awkward between me and my cousin if he told me.

I feel rude just blurting it out to him about his sexuality though. What do I say to him?
Posted on 05/20/09, 12:05 am