What is Empty Nests
Empty nest syndrome is a general feeling of depression and loneliness that parents/other guardian relatives feel when one or more of their children leave home. While more common in...
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I have just figured out whats up with my depression lately. Since my son left, I've been thinking I need friends, I need a job, I need... I need. I need. The base issue is I need to feel like I have worth instead of feeling worthless. I know everyone will say. "your not worthless", but thats how I feel whether everyone thinks so or not. I have to do something. My mothering was my identity, my being, my life. Whether that was wrong or right thats who I was. I know I'll always be his mom, i know he loves me, I know I did a good job, i know all those things and yet I feel worthless now that he's on his own. Going to a pottery class or learning photography will not solve that. I have to do something that counts. I just don't know what that is yet. I guess I'm having a bad day today. He came home this weekend for a Halloween Party and now he's gone again. You have all been so helpful and understanding and I appreciate that more than I can express, so if anyone has any suggestions I'd love to hear them. thanks, Marge
Posted on 10/27/09, 01:10 pm |
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Hi,
If you want support with me I would like that. 
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Hi Marge, everything you say sounds so familiar. I'm four years into this empty nest thing and I still have bad days...but I do have particularly good days too! I just read an article the other day in "Guideposts" by a women whose son was grown up but hadn't left home yet...they were having relational problems. She said this...."...it dawned on me I needed Thomas more than he needed me..." I've been thinking about this for a few days now. I think that's my problem...I need my son more than he needs me! That's heartbreaking to me. As moms we're so used to being needed and it's so hard when you're not needed as much anymore. We are still here for a purpose though, (it may have changed now) but you will find that purpose....hugs to you.
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I think I need to do something to make a difference. I've been looking at volunteering at Seabird santurary or Helping with reading time at the elementary school. I'd love suggestions. I love animals and kids. By my own nature I am a caretaker, so I have to find something to take care of. I feel like that will be a hugh help. Any ideas?
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Animal shelters (dogs and cats) (don't know what you call them in the States), children's hospitals if not too upsetting right now, literacy programs, anything for the underpriviledged (Xmas baskets for the holidays, toy and food drives).
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I've been there too...I started volunteering at my church, teaching classes for kids and helping in the nursery. I really enjoy it and you get to know the kids on a whole different level. I think helping at the school would be great...they always need volunteers too!
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