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Empty nest syndrome is a general feeling of depression and loneliness that parents/other guardian relatives feel when one or more of their children leave home. While more common in...
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First of all, I am not a drinker, but tonight I've drinking. After this, I'm going to bed. I had a strange sensation tonight that appears to be overwhelming to me. Saturday, my husband, myself and his parents and his cousin had a day trip planned. I was looking forward to it. Anyway, during a spirited discussion my husband said something friday evening very hurtful to me and I was very upset. There are certain phrases that are taboo in our household. He didn't apologize, so I decided I better stay home from the day out, I couldn't pretend to have a nice time in front of his parents, when I felt like kicking him in the a.......By the time he got home, I was getting ready for bed, still no apology, He went to work Sunday morning, nothing, we were supposded to go to a friends house for dinner Sunday night. I was getting madder by the minute when I figured out that he decided not to apologize still, so I declined dinner, he went without me. I thought he would have apologized. NO. Anyway, blah, blah blah..... Now he's at dinner and I'm drinking at home. I'm probably giving to much info. but I just realized my issue. The young man who took my side is gone. The young man who would tell his Dad, "you went to far dad, say your sorry" is gone. I would tell my husband the sames things, but when his son said them he listened. My husband and I don't argue much we're usually pretty good communicaters but they seems to come around every few months. This is the first time since my sons been gone. I feel horrible x2. I have to sleep. Sorry I'm whining to you but everyone else has left. Bedtime.
Posted on 10/04/09, 08:10 pm |
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Hi Marg,
Men ar very different and dont always realise that there is something they need to apologise for, talk to him and tell him what he said was hurtful and you didnt like it, hope things get better xx 
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My husband is EXACTLY the same (sometimes apologizes, sometimes I can just TELL he knows he was wrong). Come out and say it (if you haven't)especially since you have generally good communication. When the kids leave, we are thrown together with our husbands with no buffer. If we can't keep it congenial, we will suffer even more.And,as I'm sure you know, men and women are different and men oftentimes just don't "GET" that they are being idiots,lol.
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What you are seeing is the aging of your husband.....as men age, it is clear that they become tired of the people they marry....I say this not to be mean, but I believe that once the children are grown and gone...husbands believe their job is done, and now they have this woman who they have been with way too long.....apologies mean nothing, words start flowing from them that they should keep to themselves....I have watched it in my own life, so I know what I say....for me it has been 35 yrs of marriage....I am seeing things in this last 5 years of marriage that would have made me want out 20 years ago had they existed......I realized about 10 years ago, that when I used to see women who had been married 40 to 50 years, and suddenly become widowed, that they were probably ready for it....I was always so shocked at their resilience and wondered how this was so....now I know, they were waiting for them to kick the bucket.....how else to explain a woman who lived with a man for 55 years and gets up the day after his funeral and is wearing a pretty frock working out in her yard as if she has found peace at last......why hasn't anyone spoke about this on Oprah?
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