What is Eating Disorders
An eating disorder is a compulsion in which the main problem is a person eats in a way which disturbs their physical health. The eating may be too excessive (compulsive over-eating...
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Not sure if any one else has had to deal with this the way I do but I find myself having troubling handling the negative views society has about overweight and obese people. I realize that before I was overweight. Now I have lost it and I was feeling great. Now it seems whenever I see an ad for a diet, obesity epidemic or anyone talking about someone that is over weight, I feel like it is targeted to me even if it more targeted to the person I once was. I can rationalize that it really isn't and that it is just the disorder playing tricks with my mind but does it get any easier. I know that it is something society worries over but really does it need that much focus. There are so much worse issues then that. Any tips avoiding the thoughts. I don't buy the magazines and can avoid those but in class covering a chapter on eating is harder to avoid. Tips??
Posted on 11/07/09, 10:11 pm |
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Hi Vampira,
I think I can relate. Are you talking about how when an overweight woman wearing tight pants comes out of the ice cream store, sometimes people will make snarky comments? And these comments make YOU feel bad? When I hear this, yeah I feel targeted b/c it's obvious the person speaking feels superior to the woman, and to all of us who can't control ourselves around food. This happens a lot, actually. To avoid the bad feelings I try to empower myself. If I know the snarky commenter well, generally I will gently "educate" them about food addiction, and how hard it is to maintain a healthy weight in our society. I'll also tell them (or at least think in my head really, really LOUDLY) that they don't know the whole story so they shouldn't judge. Maybe that woman has just lost 50 pounds and is celebrating. Maybe it's her birthday. Maybe she's a binge eater who will cry for the rest of the day when she gets home, or make herself throw up. Or maybe she's just a woman out enjoying an ice cream because she just feels like one. Who are you to judge, Snarky Commenter? Have some compassion. Do you really feel so badly about yourself that you need to pick on another human being to raise your self esteem? I'm not an outspoken person, but saying these things quietly and with strength - or even thinking them - really, really helps me. As for the diet ads ... that's just marketing folks trying to make money off a society that is 66% overweight right now. I think we DO need this much focus on obesity, but not this kind of focus. :) Hugs, Ali 
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I used to be obese... which is an ed itself... and man after I lost the weight I struggled... I struggled with who I was, who I used to be, who I was going to be. you lose your identity. I also found myself on this weight loss mission.. always on a quest, never stopping to just live life and be me....
take time to relax... and realize you are a different person now. its just the way it is. for me whenever i see a heavy person I thank god its not me any more, which I know is a very negative reaction.... but I did make the changes, i did get educate, i did help myself... i would journal your feelings....
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