Eating Disorders Support Group

Your mom really won't let you get tested for anything? You really should see someone about your depression because that's what is probably keeping you from being healthy and happy. You should explain to your parents that you know your behavior is unhealthy and if you don't see someone about it it could get worse. Above everything they should want you to be healthy. Stay strong!

It's not that easy though. I have trouble opening up to people.. And besides I have obvious signs of ADhD and she is comepletely oblivious. I can't sit still, I am easily entertained/distracted but no. I'm fine. According to her.

Well that must be extremely frustrating. But I think it is essential that you are least see someone about it. Ignoring it will only make things worse. Ask her if you can at least just see a doctor once to get their opinion, and if they agree with her then okay but if you're truly unhealthy then they will be able to tell you.

I don't know I'm just scared :/ my mom would probably tell me to just top complaining and that I'm fine... :/

Still though, the longer you go on your own, the worse it gets....believe me. If you can't talk to your mom (I couldn't either) try finding someone else you can talk to. A counselor at your school for example, believe me, you don't want to let this keep going. Message me if you want to talk okay? GG

I have a friend. Who I'd say has a pretty similar story to mine but I suppose has it worse than I do. I talk to her a lot. I just sometimes don't like to talk to people about how I feel because I feel like I'm complaining.. But thank you, I'll keep that in mind.

I agree with your friends here, and yes they/we are your friends. Keep talking to us, your other friend you know and a counselor at school is a great place to start (in the fall).
My mother is a dietitian and I grew up in a household hearing about women (young and old) that were her patients. Many of them felt the same way you do, "my _____ would probably/ will tell me/ won't let me" but the truth is we really have no idea what another person will say, do or think. We may think we have an idea based on past experience with that person but we are not God so in all honesty we really have no clue. I also have a hard time opening up to people and the biggest reason for me is that I find it extremely difficult to find the words to describe how I'm feeling and/or don't really even know how/what that is. The most effective way for me to do this has been to write a letter. I know, it's WAYYY old school but parents usually appreciate that format. lol. Also, a letter is something no one can argue with or persuade or deny or forget. It can also be re-read and processed in a private non-confrontational way.
Most patients of my mother's had other issues than the eating as I'm sure you're aware of and the eating disorder surfaced out of a means to be able to control at least one thing in their lives. Everything else seemed out of control and crazy and confusing. Controlling what you put in your body is your responsibility. That being said, Please don't think no one cares about you or will listen to you because I'll never forget how my mom would come home after having to hospitalize a patient because they lost too much weight and had to be restrained in the bed and have a feeding tube put down their nose and weren't allowed to get up. They'd have to stay there until they gained weight to get above 100 pounds. She would come home crying, saddened and feeling helpless because these girls (most were young girls) felt that no one cared about what happened to them. The thing I know is that as a professional my mom couldn't cross a certain emotional line with the patients ethically as much as she wanted to hug them, hold them and stay with them but she couldn't. We all touch other people's lives and you do too, some just may not be able to tell you just how much you have.
Lean on us, we are here for you.
Call a friend's mom/dad and tell them if the letter idea doesn't work.
Call a clinic and ask for help
call a crisis hotline-that's their JOB to help you.
Hugs

It like web I come to say how I feel, I'm at a loss of words.. But when it comes, it flows and i start to feel like I'm complaining and I hate that...But what am I supposed to say to my mom? "Hi, I self harm, am possibly depressed/anorexic/and ADHD."? I know getting tested isn't going to change anything, I just want to know.
Thank you guys for being here for me It really means a lot
God bless you