Dyspraxia & Apraxia Support Group

mmmmmm...I don't like change either. It makes me feel very insecure and I start acting angry. I have learned that if I make small changes frequently it helps me become more accostomed to them. ALthough I still get upset with job changes, car changes or rearranging a room!

(things like, reorganiezing a drawer, or switching my daily routine a little, or trying something new)
I hope this helps a little!
HUGS!

Thank you

Riddles

I hate change. But when I was diagnosed the therapist told my mum that it was crucial to encourage me to change things regularly from a young age as this would really help. And boy did she do that. We have moved around quite regularly, and as I have grown up this has helped. It helped when I moved out for university, to a hall of residence for the first year and then to digs in someone else's house, the next year back to my parents, and then they moved house so we all relocated again. Then I moved out finally and have been in a flat with my sister for 18 months or so. So basically my advice is try to keep moving. I find if I settle down in a place or a job, I lose the will to move on and get into a rut. You have to force yourself to do things to an extent. Having said that, my family are used to my rages and freakouts whenever I am confronted by change so I know it's not easy. Even small things help, like going to different shops and areas sometimes or changing your route to work.

Thank you Lizzie, and Woodnymph486, change even little things, if thats the best way to go, to change little or and often, then I shall try that. Thanks again

Riddles

Dyspraxia means that messages that are supposed to go along nueral pathways 1-2 go around 1-2-3-4-5so processing information takes along time. While some one is on their 5th sentance you are processing your first. The same with to much information at once you will overload (Rages) if you have the same things taste (food)
information and objects you will have processed that information and you know where things are, taste like and know about. I have had children who would not move around school untill they had (mapped) the directions to a room and looked in draws and got their bearings.
I hope this helps.

I hate change with a passion but as i get older change appears each day whether i like it or not so i just try and cope the best i can but this regularly means removing myself from the situation for 10 minuets to calm down because it panics me a lot. it took me along time even to just learn that i needed to remove myself because at one point i was lashing out or having panic attacks when change happened. also moving to secondary school helped as i had to change rooms and teachers all the time an now i am at college the day changes all the time as lessons get canceled or cut short ect.

Thank you little misswhoops, this is what I was trying to say. As you get older you learn to find strategies to cope. One little boy who was Autistic/aspergers who I supported for 5 years would fight for 1 hour or more at a time when he overloaded or had a meltdown. Because you treat them like ordinary children (because of ignorance) you immediately try and talk them around and cuddle and comfort them WRONG I now know to leave well alone. This boy eventually through his experience and mine disapeared to the toilet and came back when he was ready, usually with a big smile. Its hard growing up isn't it.