What is Diabetes Type 2

Diabetes mellitus type 2 (formerly called diabetes mellitus type II, non-insulin-dependent diabetes (NIDDM), obesity related diabetes, or adult-onset diabetes) is a metabolic disor...

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I am a nurse, but that still didn't prepare me enough for loving a diabetic!!! As my boyfriend's (Type 2) diabetes progressed, he accepted it enough to take the pills he was supposed to. He was encouraged when he lost alot of weight. He even had the courage to go to the accept all the Dr's that were now involved in his care - endocrinologist, urologist, dentist, podiatrist, etc. For the first 6 months, he even included me in all aspects of his new life. He still talks about his future, but has gradually stopped caring about alot of things that used to be important in his life. And now he has shut me out, and is now in denial about the importance of controlling his diet. He is convinced that his diabetes will kill him prematurely, and he does not think he is whole enough to be in a relationship. I have been loving and supportive, and even given him space when he needs it. We are fianlly communicating and coping better, but I was wondering if there are support groups for the adult loved ones of diabetics? Also, wondering how to deal with them when they are in (partial) denial ? Has anyone lived thru this, and be willing to share their experiences?
Posted on 10/04/09, 11:10 pm
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Reply #1 - 10/04/09  11:37pm
" Hi. Yes being a loved one of a non-compliant diabetic is very frustrating. Have you considered going to counseling together? It could really help him to take responsibility for his disease. As for support groups...You are in one! :) "
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Reply #2 - 10/05/09  5:16pm
" Unfortunately it's not always the diabetic themselves that are in denial, but also the family members themselves, which can make it harder. it's a good thing that you are supportive and loving, but this is something that he has to work through on his own. i watched my mother ignore and un-manage her diabetes to the point where she had partial amputation of her foot and was on kidney dialysis for 5 years. She finally got the picture but by then it was too late. When i was diagnosed with this terrible disease, i decided that no way, no how was i going to travel that same road. My mother-in-law has had eye surgery because of her diabetes, and is still denying to a degree, and i find i am so frustrated that my husband and his brother are in their own form of denial as well. She has now been told that her kidneys are functioning at 20% and i know she is heading for dialysis, but she has a cavalier attitude in as "it won't happen to me" or 'i can't do anything about it, so i might as well enjoy my life, such as it is" and in the meantime doesn't give any thought or consideration to those that love her and don't want to see her go that route. i just don't understand why some people can be so stubborn!!! i wish you all the luck in the world, i know that it's hard, and you just have to keep plugging away with your support. He needs to do this for himself. Hugs and kisses, Deb :o) "

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