Depression - Teen Support Group

You may just want to talk to him, tell him what you said here? Maybe he'll get how much he's messing with you. Yet if he doesn't seem to listen and If it's hurting you, let him go, he's missing out on you're awesomeness and that's his problem.

Of course, this is only my opinion xD
you should do whatever will make you HAPPIEST

I agree with xxzadyxx on one hand, but on the other hand there are two things you can do. Its not fair for him to tousel you around, because he knows you are waiting. Slowly become more independent. There are plenty of fish in the sea and if its meant to be it will happen. But its your life its taking a toll out on. I am in a similar situation and I started talking to other guys and while I feel like all I can think about is him, I know I need to slowly get over him. The other thing you can do, is to test him. Hang out with another guy and see how he responds. Just be strong, and dont be afraid. Your probably amazing and its his fault. Also, like xxzadyxx said, guys have trouble opening up so if you start the conversation he might open up more easily.

Hey,

I heard everything you are going through, and though I cannot relate directly to your situation, there a lot of options ahead of you, I think. Similar story has happened to me actually, in Feb 09 my girlfriend broke up with me, and I was torn. I had been going out with my girlfriend for the past 3 years, I am 20 years old, and though people may consider me young etc, I have been through a lot of experiences, with/without her. My point is, things always get better, my life felt like it was going to end around the end of Feb, I even tried to commit suicide. It hurt, left me in more pain than I could take, left with more scars than I can cope with now. What's important is knowing that you have someone to talk to who can relate to a lot of the feelings you are having. Reply to me if you feel comfortable, maybe we can help one another out.

if you truly love him, giving up shouldn't be an option. It hurts sometimes...a lot more than it seems love ever should. But perhaps he's going through a difficult time right now, trying to figure out who he is, who he's becoming, what he wants, etc. It's difficult sometimes, and it takes time. I know it hurts, tell him. Perhaps it will give him the push he needs to figure things out. But remember, if you're ever going through a rough patch and can't figure things, what would you want HIM to do?

Hey, the exact same thing happened to me. I was dating my boyfriend for about six months and he found out he was bipolar and it got realllly bad and he went through this weird phase about not knowing who he was outside of being someone's boyfriend and that he needed some time without a girlfriend, but we would definitely get back together because we were perfect and i was the one he wanted to marry. my mistake is that i didn't listen to him and i did not handle breaking up well. I have really bad depression and when i don't have somebody to turn to i turn to cutting myself and falling back on my eating disorder so i begged him to talk to me and he got mad at me for trying to manipulate him back into the relationship before he was ready, which wasn't what i was doing at all, and he got so mad that he called off our 'break' and turned it into a full-on break up and slept with somebody else who he ended up falling in love with .

I know exactly how you feel, it's been about 3 months for me and I have cried almost every single day of it. it hurts so bad, and i don't know when or how it will get better, but if you still have hope of getting back together, don't give up. but my advice is listen to what he says. if he says he needs space, give it to him. if he says he wants to be friends, be completely casual around him. but also my advice, if he starts hanging out with other girls as much as he does with you, try to let him go. nothing hurts worse than watching him fall for somebody else.

After being through this, I don't want anybody else to feel like this, even though i don't know you, i know you don't deserve that. if you want to talk, message me. i know how you feel, and it hurts :[

Thanks for the advice guys. It hurts so much because I love him, but I'm not even sure if that enough anymore. I date him for 3 and 1/2 years. We still hang out and I still feel like a couple. I'm not feeling the whole "friends" thing. He has to be a fool if he thinks that this is what friends do (the things we do). Anyone else would think we're still a couple with how much we spend time together. I just don't understand what he is thinking.

Like I said he has said numerous times that we would be back together. So many reminders on that. And yet last week he was close to to not wanting to hang out anymore because "he didn't want to lead me on." I flipped on that, but he admitted he was leading me on and that he was a dumbass for doing it. He said he felt sick and said it's all my fault.

I just think, in my opinion, that 3 months is more than enough time to know what you want. It'll be 3 months on monday. I can't believe I'm counting the time that has gone by...

Isn't 3 months more than enough time to decide what you want? I've just gotten to the point where maybe all this hope I have is a waste of time. That me waiting around is stupid on my part.