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I have a 17 year old son who seems to hate me. He is beginning to completely shot me out and it hurts very deeply. Just until a few years ago, we were very close, or at least I thought we were. I'm just very irritating to him now.
He had failing grades and was isolating himself from his friends when he was a freshmen. We sent him to a wilderness camp where he was diagnosed with depression. We sent him onto a therapeutic boarding school for a year afterwords where he did very well. I thought I had the son I knew back. His grades were good, he shared things with me, and seemed to be interested in friends and doing the right things again. He seemed happy. After the therapeutic boarding school, we sent him to a college prep boarding school, although he wanted to live at home. We truly believed that was the best thing for him. He did well for about a semester at his new school, than things started to fall apart for him, and he hates me for I'm not sure what. I know I was not a good parent, but I did my best. I've yelled at him, and even slapped him once which I am very sorry for. I was inconsistent with him.. Very kind and trying to support him most of the time, than lashing out at him out of frustration. I have him in a therapy now, and I've been told by his therapist that he has real issues with me, though I have no idea what they are. He rarely answers my phone calls or calls me now, although he is polite when we do talk. Should I keep trying to connect with him, or should I just leave him alone and let him be? I want to do what is best form him. I would very much appreciate an advice from teens perspective. Posted on 11/01/09, 12:11 am |
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Any advice on what I should say in a letter? 
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That is tough for a mother. Definitley keepn in contact with him, even if he is irritated with you, deep inside he will know that you care about him and love him enough to keep trying. Just always tell him how much you love him, and if he has issues with you, ask him what they are. Even if he doesn't give you a helpful answer, at least he'll know that you want to know what's causing him to have a problem with you so he knows that you're trying to rekindle your relationship with him. If he actually at one point tells you to leave him alone or stop calling him, then just respect his space and after a while he will come around and know that you're his mother and you just love him and want the best for him.
That's the best advice I can give you. Hope all is well.
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