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i have a minor dilema. minor because i haven't really acted on it, but i really want to.

one of my best friends, whom i love dearly, has this ex-boyfriend. They had dated for years, but she decided to move away and on with her life, so they broke up (for other reasons, too). They say they're single, but I'm sure she still has feelings for him and they hook-up whenever she comes back home. (They live really far apart.). They've been "broken-up" for about 2 years, now.

In the last year, I started having a crush on this guy. I've always been attracted to him since he's technically single. I've been single for years on end. Recently, he and I and some other of our friends were at a party, we were drinking a lot, and we suddenly started making out. It was the most amazing feeling I've ever felt, not just because I hadn't been kissed in so long, but I'm just on Cloud 9 in more ways than one.

The next morning, I called my girl friend and told her what happened and apologized because I know she has feelings for him. I didn't tell her I have a crush on him (which has increased, of course). I really didn't want her to hear it from someone else, because all of our friends here were in the next room at the party and knew what was going on.

I really don't want to hurt her, but I'm totally gaga over him. I've talked to him since, and it seems the feeling is mutual. I wish they'd just end their relationship and really move on, because I think it's holding her back a bit. I don't want to be a slut or lose her respect or damage a friendship over a guy. But something just felt so right with him, and I'm having a really hard time resisting. :(

If he's an ex, then why is there an understand social rule about not dating your friend's ex?

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Posted on 10/27/09, 07:10 pm