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ur a good person and dont deserve to live like that.is there anyway u can leave or leave him.im in recovery and if u make it to easy for him he wont get help.please take care of ur health u really should put urself first.please understand he is the only one who can get himself better.huge huge hugs
Barb

That does not sound like a desirable or healthy life you have in this situation. Do you want to live like this? Do you want to stay in the misery and severe stress that is affecting your health? I wish you would take care of yourself and eat, also maybe lock him out of the house. If you are scared and feel threatened by him please call a crisis center or just get the heck away from your home. If the depression is so severe how about inpatient treatment. From what you wrote about your home life with him, I think I would just leave him and then enjoy my life. Take care and I am praying for you.

Sherry

Please find a al-anon meeting & go to it. You need to see that YOU are NOT the problem, it is him & he has a disease. Do not enable him. Do you have young children? If you are in any danger when he is drinking do not hesitate to call a crisis center or the police. No one has the right to harm another. It is not an easy life living with an alcholic, I understand as I am in the same boat, except there is no meaness, my depression is all mine! Are you seeing a therapist?

All good replies for you. I think it helps to get support (like you're doing) and obviously, you've thought about your options. Perhaps you should go to counseling just for you to figure out how to take care of yourself. Do you think you would be depressed if it weren't for this relationship? I know it's probably hard to even imagine your life differently, but who wouldn't be depressed in your situation?

Since you have medical issues, I would say try to put yourself first instead of your husband. It seems like you are trying to be a good wife and supportive but he has to go into treatment for himself....you can't make him better. All you can do is find help for yourself.

Good luck. Take care of you. You deserve it!

Everyone deserves love and support. If stress makes it worse on you and he is stress than maybe you need to rethink where you need to be. I hope that you know you deserve to be happy. If he is an alcholic than he cannot be that much of support for you and if counseling isn't working than maybe you need to take the next step and help yourself instead of wasting energy on him.
I know that it is easier said than done but you need to think about your future and health. Either he can help you or bring you down. I hope that you can find the strenght to do what is right and I will lift you up in prayer that God protects you through it all. Good luck

Leave him.
You are a good person. Do not let him hit bottom and drag you down with him. He made his own choices in life.
It's time for you to make yours.

I can only say I am so sorry and I cannot even imagine what you may be going through. I to am very depressed and when I am I read Psalms in the bible. Why? I don't even know. I think soomeone told me to once.

if he sees you as the problem, and not himself responsible, he is not going to change. which means you are going to stay in that prison for as long as you are with him.

try counseling on your own, make a plan to get out of his control. i hate to see marriages break up, but sometimes there are no other options. perhaps if you left it may even wake him up. and he might begin to face some of these things he is responsible for.

by disability, are you talking of ssri? sometimes pple must apply several times to get it. its a major hassle for those that need this help and have to work so hard to get it. look at this page on ssri , there are also a couple natl organizations you can contact that could give you advice on how to proceed.

there are a few things you maybe able to do at home, legit jobs that wont make you rich but help you to put a bit away , on the side. i will list a source for infor on that also. this gal katie, is a nice person, you can email her and ask her advice, she will get back to you. good luck to you. welcome to ds, keep coming back. you can meet some nice pple and develop some good friendships here. join some groups of interest here too, when you feel ready. best wishes.

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try and eat fruit or something light something to help you I know its hard to eat when ur not hungry I also quit eating due to stress and it took along time to get to where I even wanted to eat I had to force myself then at first when I did eat I got sick it takes awhile but eventually that will get better and as far as ur husband thats a hard one alcoholics have to want to stop and then its not easy for them have a friend that is a alcoholic and he was told that he would die if he didnt quit and he still hasnt his wife left him he went to counseling still drinking hang in there take day by day keep applying for disability they always turn u down the first time they turned my brother down the firt time and hes paralyzed