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The past year of my life I have been seperated and divorced from the man I have spent the past 10 years with. Within this year I have feel in love again with a man I was with before my husband. Life has saw it's ups and downs for us since we decided to get together and anymore we have saw more down's thans ups. I have 2 children of my own and he has 2 children of his own aging from 6 to 13!!! My divorce was final in July of this year and since I got my divorce I have missed my husband more than ever. I am so confused I don't know what to do I feel like the man I'm with is my soul mate and I can't live with him. I am so double minded and I can't stand it anymore. This weekend I told the man I am with how I felt and how I was missing my ex husband and now I wish I wouldn't of said a thing. I have family memebers telling me to put my family back together but if I listen to them I'm affraid I won't be doing whats right or what I really want. God I just don't know what path to take... Can anyone out there help me out thanks
Posted on 11/02/09, 10:11 pm
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Reply #1 - 11/03/09  8:20am
" You told the man you are with now who you call your "soul mate" that you miss your ex-husband? Not good. How do you think that makes him feel? Why did you feel the need to tell him that?

You are divorced. That means your marriage, for whatever reason, didn't work out. I am sorry about that. Do you actually have a choice to get back with him? Does he want you back?

Hugs & I do wish you peace. "
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Reply #2 - 11/03/09  8:56am
" I am a very honest person he can see when I am having a down day... He know's I have been having problems getting over my ex husband I don't know why I just miss him so much at times and other times I just could care less. I left my husband for this man and I guess you could say things didn't work out the way I had hoped for. I know this has really hurt the man I am with and I don't know what to about it now. My ex husband has never stoped asking me to put our family back together but he has had several fling's I would call it. At times I think he is playing mind games with me and then sometimes I don't... But yes I do have a chance to put my family back together but I know I'll have to let go of the man I am with now in order for that to happen and I'm not sure if I can do it or not. Please help what should I do???? "
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Reply #3 - 11/03/09  9:23am
" off hand, you should consider yourself divorced (since you are) and tend to what you have rather than what you do not have. Just my opinion. "
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Reply #4 - 11/04/09  12:40am
" Thank you so much, for some reason reading what you said about "tend to what you have rather than what you do not have" really made a huge impact on me today. The man I am with now and I had a long talk and it hit me when he told me that this is my LAST CHANCE with him. When he told me this today it just about killed me "
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Reply #5 - 11/04/09  4:36am
" what made you dump the exhusband? you left the husband for this guy? was the ex mistreating you? i think that would be very hard on young kids. personally, i dont have much tolerance for pple that leave the spouse for another when married. of course if he was abusing you, i understand leaving.

the comment about missing the ex would be hurtful. watch out you might lose em both.

this really seems like a more appropriate question for the breaking up and divorce group, or the life after divorce group. you might get more responses there. "
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Reply #6 - 11/04/09  9:29am
" Okay, so you left your husband for a man. Why? It seems like you still have strong feelings for your husband. Was your husband abusive to you? Do you have children together?

Sorry for all the questions but there are so many missing pieces here for me to give you solid advice.

Hugs "
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Reply #7 - 11/04/09  10:22am
" Hi if there is one thing I have learned people who love you dont ask you to make choices they do the choosing on there own account but I too get very confused when not feeling great and have learned never to make lifechanging decisions at these times as they often end up not being the one you want perhaps some space from both would be the right choice just now perhaps if you can gain some control of your life it will give you the confidence to build towards the right moves love&hope "

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