What is Depression
Clinical depression is a state of sadness or melancholia that has advanced to the point of being disruptive to an individual's social functioning and/or activities of daily living....
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How do I talk to my hubby about this???
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I had my doctor's appointment on Friday. It didn't really turn out well. I ended up getting really upset, crying and angry. I wasn't able to really get things out, but overall she does see that my meds aren't working. She got defensive about some things and I don't blame her. If I wasn't so upset, I might have actually been able to say things without blaming. Anyways, I'm wandering in my thoughts. She gave me some options. We are limited on medications because of our financial status at the moment. She is going to try to get me a supply of Pristiq through samples. She also gave me the number to the crisis line. I also have a referral in for a p-doc, but that takes forever (it's already been 3 months). Her last option was that she could admit me to the hospital for intensive treatment.
Here's my problem. I don't know how to talk to my hubby about this. He hasn't been too supportive of me regarding my depression and meds and stuff. I don't know how to tell him how this affects me. He just thinks and says I'm lazy when I can't get going. I know he's going to realize how serious this is when I tell him about the hospital, but I know he's going to question why I haven't talked to him before. I just don't know how to approach him about it. He was away over the weekend and then I just chickened out last night. Just really struggling with this right now! Posted on 11/23/09, 03:00 pm |
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It is very difficult for someone to understand depression. Trying to explain it is almost as difficult as well. I would just set down with him and explain how this affects you and why you have no desire to do anything. Tell him that you are doing the best you can with the Dr. and the meds you are taking. If you can pick up some brochures on depression from your Drs. office, do so and, let him read them. Depression is very hard to deal with as a patient and as a spouse of one who has it. When I was dealing with deep depression, it was very difficult for my wife to understand. You may want to take your husband with you and let the Dr. give him her input on depression and how it is treated. This may help him understand the effects of it rather than him possibly taking it personal. I hope things get better for you and for your husband I will remember you in prayer. 
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Another thing you may try is to write what you want to say and let him read it . Hugs for you.
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Edit your post to a point, print it, and show it to him(?).
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Just explain to him what is wrong with you & don't worry (please) about his reaction. Don't let the fear of his reaction prevent you from getting treatment. Take care of you right now.
Yes, the "husbands" (most) do not get it & will never fully understand & I don't blame them. It is really hard to be married to a "depressed" person. Hugs
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I find people who havent been there haave a difficult time relating to our issues.
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Maybe let him read this???? I don't know but wish you all the best!!
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Medical web sites offer pretty good descriptions of Depression, and how it affects people, in layman's terms. You can print them out and leave them for him to read. MSNHealth has a good page about it.
It's not easy, I know, because depression messes with our confidence, too. But you're going to have to open up the topic sooner or later. My husband has been very supportive, compared to many---but even so, needs to be informed from time to time about different aspects of it. He's gotten to where he understands much better than he used to. Good luck, and lots of understanding hugs.
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