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i think youre doing well to express yourself...perhaps keep trying to sort out your thoughts on here so you be clear to talk to him about

I'm so sorry that you are going through this.
Do you feel as though you have changed since starting therapy? Oftentimes, when one partner changes -- even when it's totally POSITIVE changes!!! -- it's upsetting to the other spouse, even if they're not quite sure why. It changes the dynamics of the relationship.
I so hope that he will be open to at least trying marital therapy!!!! It sounds like you have such a good, strong foundation!!
Hugs and good luck. I hope this problem works itself out and with a happy result.

hey, having chronic stress, is very depressing, you qualify for our little group here. what ever she feels is causing it, she can explain that to your husband. also have you seen a doc to be evaluated as yet, maybe you should do that. she thinks this is just stress related, but its always nice to get multiple opinions from pple you respect.

perhaps they would label you as moderately depressed and suggest a trying meds to help you get this more under control. maybe your husband might even see this as a positive thing, as you are consulting another md about this problem and taking proactive action.

for instance if it was me, and my wife had been over stressed, taking alot of it out on me, and say the therapist said you were progressing but he felt things were about the same. then id see you seeking an additional opinion as to your diagnosis as a positive step in trying to get better. thats just me, but id see that as you really trying harder even.

just my 2cent glad if any of it helps. best wishes to you both, todd

Wow...sorry to hear you are going trough this... Maybe counseling could help? I wish you the best..I hope you can make the puzzle pieces fit...xx

Thanks for your answers guys. I know we have things to work on, but we do have a strong foundation. I feel defeated because I feel like we are just giving up, and that scares me.

I am truly sorry about this.

I don't know you that well but have seen you around here & think you are cool.

I would like to say this with no disrespect intended.

My ex would also get very angry with me for no good reason because I agree with you, there is no excuse for it. The ONLY way I was going to stay with him was if he went to Anger Management classes, therapy & simply stopped talking to me like that.

He was in denial & although he tried to stop, he could not.

If your husband really & truly still loves you, he may want to stay with you if you show him that you will treat him with respect.

Please remember that actions speak larger than words.

Huh...I never really thought about anger management before. It seems pretty obvious, yet, I am completely surprised at how surprising this suggestion is. I guess when I think of "anger management" I think of a bunch of big, burly guys screaming and yelling.

I think my nastiness...WHILE I AM NOT MAKING EXCUSES...does stem from growing up in a verbally abusive household where nasty words were the quickest and best defense. Sort of, cut them at the knees quick. I know I do that...and, for instance, when I argue with my brother...he fights the same way. Says the quickest, nastiest thing that will cause the most trouble.

Oh I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. If you've had a bad year perhaps he is just exhausted and feels that he needs a break from all of the frustration and whatever else has been going on. I think its good that he used the word separation instead of divorce, and also very good that you are still in love and have a strong foundation.

I agree that actions speak louder than words and that signing up for anger management classes would be a wonderful way to show him how dedicated you are to the marriage. Words are also important though and once you've figured out exactly what you want to say, I think you should sit him down and explain how much it means to you that you two stay together, that you work out your issues, and that you are willing to do whatever it takes to keep your relationship happy and healthy.

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