Depression Support Group

I won't act like I haven't been in this place before....so I will try to share with you the things I do to try to bounce back. It seems to me like based on your posting your mind has gotten stuck on the things you don't have. I suggest you write down 10 things you are grateful for everyday - try to make your entries unique to each day. I notice when I do this I can't engage in the selective memory like thinking that causes me to conclude that I am alone. I suggest you find a Depression workbook and go through it page by page. It sounds like you are engaging in at risk thoughts that can realloy set you back.


Deep down I know that you know all this - anyone who has beat depression knows these things.

I always say...when I am feeling low and alone....it's time to hit the restart button.

I believe in you and send a prayer of hope your way.

Cammy

That's a great idea!

thanks cammy...ok. You want to know what usually sets me into this feeling?? FACEBOOK!! I read something that someone says, like my son posted that he was at his dad's for the weekend (who lives 2 mins from me) and he didn't even let me know he was in town. I sat and cried over it. He did this to me LAST weekend. I've done so much for my son and he continues to hurt me.

Then there are other things, things I am embarrassed to say, but still, they hurt me. (things that are being posted on facebook.) Why do I keep going back? I don't know. I keep hoping for someone to do something or say something that is going to lift me up. Stupid, I know!!

what works is really an individual thing, just like pple and their situations. naturally cz mom would feel bad when her son didnt bother to stop in. that would hurt those without depression. but with it seems to make everything hurt a little deeper.

you might write him a letter, say you felt bad he didnt stop by, but he is always welcome and you hope he will come by and see you when he has time. no anger, not putting any blame on anyone, just a nice note saying you love him and would like to see him from time to time. you know how kids can be at 20, stepping from being a kid to a man, lots of changes, and maturity doesnt come to all at the same time either. give him time, play it cool, and let him know you love him. i bet he will come around with time.

the painting idea is a good one, if that interests you. if you enjoy photography there are classes around in that too. and its a fun hobby. maybe check meetup.com for pple with like interests to yours in the area.

most pple like the security of coming back to their cave and feeling relief from the crazy outside world. thats pretty normal. and being a homebody, theres nothing wrong with that either. you just need to try and look into some things to get ya out now and then. so you might meet some pple to do things with. as you have an interest in animals have you ever thought of volunteering at an animal shelter in the area? there are some that really need the help and your love of animals that would be a good fit for you. you might meet some good friends there too. just another thought. i had...here at 4am..haha take care.

Trust me, my son knows how I feel. We've been around and around. I have been nothing but good to him and a constant in his life. I have never been hateful or blaming with him. I've always waited until I've cooled off from being hurt and been the adult in the relationship. It is just getting very old, going on 6 years now, seeing him go to his dad because of purely monetary and materialistic reasons. I can not give him the life his dad can. But that doesn't mean we can't have a relationship.

I did ask him why he didnt let me know he was in town, he said he called me, but he didn't leave me a message. I said "I didn't get a message" He said he figured that if I didn't answer I must be working tonight (I work all night 7pm-7am and was sleeping during the day when he called) but what difference does that make in leaving a message? We could have still made plans for the morning maybe, right? I didn't get a chance to say that, I had to hang up being at work. I will email him later when I get my thoughts in order.

I'm going to look into several of the idea's everyone posted. I truely appreciate everyone's thoughtfullness when I really needed it. You made this night just a little bit easier for me to get through and it meant a whole lot to me and the babies I am taking care of!! (newborn nursery RN) Thanks soooooo much!!

Keep us posted!

Winter

Sounds like you have about bottomed out. It must be time for you to "trade up" for some other feelings. You have found the right place. The friends you make here will not run out on you. We aren't saints in here, and plenty of us are still plenty sick. But we know this depression stuff from the inside out. So keep hanging out with us, and you will see things start to change. Just look at all the interest in your post! Not a passing fancy, that. Be good to yourself, and find just one thing to like in your day. Only one!

Personally, I think being alone & NOT abused is better than being with abusers. So congrats to you for having the courage & strength to get away from all of your abusers.

I like your idea of church.

Hugs