Depression Support Group

I choose Love, especially the love I have for my kids and what they give back!

Love right now but I'm sure I'd feel differently if my fiancee and I split up.

People choose to wall themselves off to protect themselves which i do understand. However, if you never take a risk with people, then you will never have anyone.

I'm not one of humanity's biggest fans but the people in my life that I do love, I wouldn't dream of being without.

So I suppose the question is this:

Do you open yourself to love and friendship and risk the possible heartache or wall yourself off from people and risk never feeling anything?

You can't isolate the whole spectrum of human choice into love or isolate.

I choose love.

Due to me being pretty hurt over my marriage, while not as long as others being only 12 years at the time of breakup, was long enough to make me hurt a lot when it was over. Even given the possibility of another bad heartache I still would have love than isolation. That is what I feel in my heart.

Currently I am an isolated shell of a person due to my depression for the past 20+ years, which probably had something to do with my bad relationship. I have a lot of work to do to get better but when I am ready I am sure I will meet the right person to love again.

Jag

When you say love or loneliness are you referring to a partner?

You can love your kids, sisters, brothers, parents, friends without having a partner.

When it comes to love with a partner, I'm done. I have had enough of loving and trusting and then being broken hearted. I'd rather live through the pain I'm going through now with my break-up and then I have no plans to ever date again. I find it impossible to find someone to really love and trust without having your heart ripped out.

am i weird... i like being a loner.
cuz 'love' doesn't exist, in my opinion.

Loneliness.

lonlieness ... because then people dont see me self destruct and i don't end up hurting them

Well, I can totally relate to that, CityandColour. Sometimes I'm embarrassed by being weird. But sometimes being different just means people project their issues on me and it's not my fault. I'm going through something with this right now.

RawrrDinosour, I've focused everything in my life on being real. No Pollyanna rose colored glasses allowed and no self-indulgent cynicism allowed. Love is real. We don't teach people how to have effective relationships and we damage our children, especially girls, routinely. Instead of looking to build a future, many people are barricaded behind their fears. Forces of decadence, such as Dubya and Fox "News" encourage this.

Love keeps getting the sh*t kicked out of it, but it's still there.

I have short term problems in my life right now because I follow what's right instead of social convention, but people who don't have larger long term problems.