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I'm not completely sure I understand your post but if you want a divorce and your husband is dragging his feet, and now is trying to sue you for alimony, I don't think you should feel guilty at all about getting your medical bills paid...he wouldn't have had to keep you on his insurance if he'd gone through with the divorce, so it's his fault...right?

hell no!!! if he agreed to this and didnt follow through and now trying to delay everything why on earth would you feel guilty and honey you do need to sue him for the medical bills.

If you hate to do anything, then don't do it. May you see justice done in this situation, and may there be peace in your heart when all is said and done.

No you shouldn't...... I'm sorry that you are going through this rough time...... {{HUGS}}

he breached the contract. i think that's the right word. if he signed it then he should agree to it. don't feel guilty. i've spent 7 yrs. of being divorced feeling guilty at different levels and it has effected my relationship w/ my children, i placate them due to guilt. i cower to my ex due to guilt. well, he's the one w/ the big house, steady job, and chldren's adoration, me...i'm plodding along trying to be a good person. no, please don't feel guilty.

how much money do u owe since he dropped you? maybe it isn't worth fighting. before i divorced since i was still on his insurance, i got my nose fixed and checkups galore. he made a comment about it and i said, i might as well since he paid for it already. good luck. you willget through this and find peace in the end. you've almost made it to the other side then you can completely have your life back. don't feel guilty, emotions are not that helpful in a divorce, that's why we have lawyers.

i wouldn't feel guilty for anything that happened to a man who assaulted me. he deserves worse so let your lawyer have fun with him.

You shouldn't feel guilty for anything J... not in this situation. You deserve everything that you are entitled to, as does he, for everything he has put you through. You are in my prayers hun, I hope all of this is over for you soon, and you can go on to start a new, stress free life. I'm always here if you need to talk. xx
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Since he was married to you, he KNOWS your strengths and weaknesses... he knows that you value goodness and fairness, that you are not one who likes to fight dirty... and it sounds like he wants to hurt you in any way he possibly can, emotionally, financially, etc. HE is the the one who is fighting dirty.

Does that mean that you have to respond in kind? No... but it does mean that you do need to protect yourself and your assets from his attempts to distroy you financially, etc. Never feel guilty about protecting your own rights from someone seeking to take them from you.

Your lawyer knows that the best defense can be a good offense. Feeling guilty over the lawyer's counter to sign or be sued for the medical bills would be like feeling guilty when the dog trained to protect you bites the person attacking you.

all he has to to do is sign the divorce paers and i will drop everything he has a no contact order so this is his way of controling me, lawyer drawing up papers monday giving him thirty days to comply with agreement or the bills wil be sent to him as next of kin. his choice

Well it looks like you have him backed into a corner! Good for you! I really hope he pulls his head out of his ass and realizes this. You know I know what it's like... he's trying to draw this out, just to cause you stress... but don't give him the satisfaction, you hold all the cards hun, just remember that. xx