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An interesting thing happened the last time I was speaking with a councilor. She asked me what value or worth I would describe myself as having. I thought for a moment, and said that I tried to make life better for people around me every day, so that was a good quality. She responded, "What if you couldn't do that? What if you were a paraplegic and couldn't do anything for anyone anymore? Would your value as a person change then? What qualities would you say gave you worth then?"
I was stumped. I honestly had no answer. It's not that I'm down on myself or think that I'm worthless, I just can't think of anything valuable about myself to answer the question with. I've been grappling with the question every since, and I realize now that it's a paradigm I'm going to shift, that I'm going to have to discover that everybody has value and worth just for being a person. But it's honestly just not something that's happened yet. Has anyone else had a similar experience? Perhaps they could share their own revelations on the subject? Posted on 07/02/09, 02:07 pm |
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Reading through, I understand exactly what you mean. My counseller asked me the same question and I got stuck for an answer. The thing thats tough to get your head around is that from birth, your presence in the world has affected family, friends, teachers, doctors and counsellers. You have left a mark on them and thats important.
Thats how I like to think, it doesnt always work because it takes ages to chip away at your core beliefs. Hugguns 
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excellent question : ) I reckon I'd only have a handfull of friends left but I think I'd have my head to offer if I was a paraplegic.Look at that head it's cute lol : ) x
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i'd say because you like to help people you have value because you are a caring person. if you wished people unwell, then you would not be valuable as a person. just my opinion.
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thats a paradix, because if you feel that you have self worth now being you then even if you were paraplegic you should feel the same. i have never been asked that or thought of it, but i know that i would feel low. just don't been albe to do anything, go out side, talk, anything, that would be the worst. its good that your positive, i try to be too, thats the only way to go. i've changed my life to see everything and everyone have valve and everyone do's.
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stuff like that is dumb to me.
id quit seeing her if she asked stupid questions like that.
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Paraplegics can do plenty for people.
People have value for simply BEING. every newborn brain has immense potential and worth. I am valuable because: I pick up litter I feed and care for 3 other people I give my time and money for those in dire need I am a sister, mother, daughter, and friend. I spread my light.
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I found this to be interesting.
For me, some days I feel like I have great self worth and could list many reason why I feel that way and other days, I feel like I have absolutely no self worth or value. I wish I could find a happy medium and stay there.
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I think this is something to help you develop a good sense of self, to value yourself for who you ARE and not as what you DO, if that makes any sense.
It is easy to define ourselves and find value in what we do, be it helping people or even our occupations. It will take time... but time well spent, a season of personal growth will occur as you work thru this to define your worth. It's not finding something new, or something outside yourself... it's just discovering what is already there, what others may be able to see that you may not see in yourself yet. In some ways, I'm still working on this myself as I lost a sense of identity based on what I do when I wasn't able to do it anymore. I still carry my journeyman card in my wallet even tho I will never be able to do that kind of work again.
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This is something similar to the things paying on my mind hun. I've spent my life since I was 14 helping people less fortunate than myself. I know I've made a huge impact on the lives of the children in families that I work with. Trouble is I've nothing left to give so I have to change my life completely. I know I have to do it because I've reached a point where if I don't start thinking about myself it could have a devastating effect on my mental health and on my relationship and children. Problem is being that nice kind helpful person has been who I am for so long that if I don't do it I struggle to see what my worth is. Because I'm not running round after everyone already there has been a drop in contact from people who are supposed to care about me just when I need it the most. This has been a wake up call though. So not only am I changing my career I'll also have to find new friends in the process. I hope my new friends and career will help me realise that people see my worth as a person and not as what I can do for them.
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My pshychologist asked a similar question. I was stumped as well at first. I'm still working on too. I think it has noting to do whith what you do, but who you are. Wat are you core values? Some people value love above all. some people value money. Etc.
When all your abilities are stripped away..who are you then...wht now? I'm finding my value is in my heart. I care about others, I enjoy encouraging others. I value truth, kindness, hope, faith and above all love. This is what truely defines me ove what I do. He's aiming at your core...cool, smart counselor :)
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