Depression Support Group

Hello all....I really need some advice from as many people as possible....Here is why..

My sister is pregnant, she is 22 and this is her second child...only problem is, she doesnt want the baby. She was looking into abortion, and i am so against that, but she went to the doctors today and they told her she is too far along to get one....so now, her other option is to give the baby up for an adoption, i am for this because atleast the baby will be able to live....Now here is the hard decision, my sister wants me and my gf to adopt the baby! Now let me start off by saying that me and my gf are only 21 ....we live on our own, we're not poor, but we're not livin the good life either! Now when this was bought up, i was all about it, excited...because i would have a child of my own and i know in the long-run me an Amanda would want kids, and adoption is wayy to expensive...so this sounds like a chance that shouldnt be passed up....right? Well then i got to thinking about what it really would be like raising a child...it sounds fun, but i know my freedom would be gone an out the door...that seems to be the only big problem i am finding with this whole situation...i really want a kid, and i really want my sisters baby to stay in our family...and so does everyone else...the more and more i thought about it, the more i got freaked out....just thinking of all the responsibilites i would have to take on, but then i think "Hey maybe this could give me and Amanda a chance to really grasp the meaning of being responsible" i just dont know what to do, i would really love to have a kid of my own, i just adore kids and there are some things that are holding me back like "What im going to tell him when he is older and wondering why he has 2 moms and where his dad is" and i also dont want him to find out that my sister is really his mother, ya know? just alot of thoughts going through my head right now and i really need some advice.....So let me know what u think
Thanks...
Posted on 01/22/08, 07:01 pm