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I've been fighting this bout of depression for a few months now and it just seems I take one step forward to feeling better then three steps back. For a while I was depressed that most of the "friends" I was close to won't talk to me. I haven't seen my so called "best friend" in 8 or 9 months and haven't talked to her in a month. Only time she will talk to me is if something happened like her dog dying but otherwise I don't hear from her. I do understand people got to work but it doesn't kill them to reach out sometimes and see how I'm doing. A few weeks ago I started to feel a little better about being exiled by my "friends" and tried meeting new people when the guy I like started to distance himself from me. We have been basically seeing each other without saying we're in a relationship and it's gotten to the point where he won't talk to me. That's the 1st sign in every relationship I've been in that he's lost interest. Today I've realized that I need to stop trying to hold on to something that's not going to happen. But it's still really hard not to feel hurt and the wanting to keep trying.
Posted on 08/03/12, 04:51 pm
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Reply #1 - 08/03/12  5:03pm
" Urgh, I totally know how you feel, the frustration of getting something right, to have it trampled on again, bleurgh...
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to let the people from the past go. I know that being alone is scary, but sometimes, a relationship with people who are not willing to support you can cause depression to become worse
Have you considered starting a new sport? Something like ice skating. I began skating and met a whole bunch of new people. You have something in common when you all come off the ice freezing and soaking because you've been falling down so much. We had such laughs and went for coffee together after the lessons
It opened my eyes to exactly how toxic my previous friendships had been and to how much they were contributing to my depression

Here if you want to talk to someone "
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Reply #2 - 08/03/12  6:45pm
" Yes, that one step forward and two steps back is an on going problem, isn't it? Now this is what we need to figure out. Are they "friends" or are they "acquaintances?" A true friend like I have now, and took years to find, is considered a true friend. She knows I have depression, Firbromyalgia, chronic pain, but she still loves me and tries to help me when things get tough, not run away from me. It is better to have one true friend that a dozen acquaintances. Don't you agree? I noticed how you wrote that one of your so-called friends was needing you and you were there for her when her dog died, and that is a devastating thing to go through. However, when you need her for YOU, she is not available. That is so wrong in my book. Can you do some volunteer work? That is where I met my one true friend. Sure, I have other friends, but the people on this board, here in this Forum, know me better then they do and I intend to keep it that way. If you have to wait for these people to come around and say they are your friends, then it's time to move on. There are a lot of lonely people out there that would give anything to have even one friend. Listen to your gut, it rarely fails us. If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. You are brand new to this Forum but I can promise you that you will meet good friends, you will get lots of support, and you won't regret being here. I should only speak for myself, I just know that I have never regretted being here for 1 minute and it's been over 3 years. Hang in there with us and lets see how we can help you with that depression. "

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