Depression Support Group

Sorry to hear about all the negative feedback you have been getting. There is a place for you, you just have to find the right place and the right people. You are fortunate to have found me :-). I have recently put up a web blog in hope's of helping people with similar issues as I. Please feel free to check it out and contact me if you want to talk......Liz
http://theheavenwithin.blogspot.com/

Coming to DS is good for one reason - it reminds you of a bright world right outside of your computer room , so close you can smell it. I was very upset and vulnerable when I came here almost a year ago. I was met with the usual pleasantries, but ii guess as people decided they didn't care for me - the hate and ugliness began - starting with vile rumors that were outright lies. One has to remember that some of the posters are really sick and we are all sick. I still hang around DS because it did teach me that life is just a key pad away. Because of my life at the time and in part, my treatment on DS, I up and moved to the PNW - a place I am recovering rapidly. I challenge any skeptic to rethink localities effects on depression and if you really think a move will help you and get you away from local bad influences and demons, DO IT. Definitely, if you've been made to feel bad, time away from DS is paramount, but come back and take it not ever again serious, lest it be only the positive you take seriously.

Aww why are people such jerks

I had my first rude reply on here in 4 years from a user who shall remain anonymous. Since then I have seen a couple of other extremely unhelpful comments he has posted on other people's threads. This is meant to be a support site. If you're that angry you don't have to bring other's down with you! Especially here at DS! Constructive criticism is one thing, sheer rudeness is something entirely different.
Maybe if they write a rude response they think they will get some attention and be noticed? I don't know... Sorry this happened to you too.

This sounds like a place for you, and not a place for them.

I'm so so sorry you feel this way. I didn't see your other post....I will go look for it now *Hugs*

I am sorry about any negative comments that you got. I know it is no excuse but some people on here can have a bad day or just be in a bad place and say things in a cruel way that they normally would not. Also with the internet it is very easy to type something that can read as judgemental and negative but have just come out wrong (I don't know if this is the case but it can happen, I think a few of my posts could be taken negatively because I try to give advice as to things that one might be approaching wrongly but I never ever mean it to sound as though I am bashing people). I hope you stick around and not let a few bad comments get you down. I am so sorry that your husband won't listen to your feelings. It could be because he feels so helpless when you talk about it and he doesn't know how he can help or do anything and he can't cope with the fact that you are depressed. I know my dad is like that, it doesn't mean he doesn't love me just that he doesn't know how to deal with those things right.

I'm so glad you spoke up about your experience! That takes courage. And I am really sorry you got negative feedback on your post. That is really uncalled for and not acceptable. Yes you do belong here and please don't leave over a few loser who don't know how to treat others. Most people here are supportive and caring. But there are also those who are very sick and dont know how to help or maybe just don't care. I had one bad experience here at DS about a year ago and I admit that it still affects me to this day, but at the same time I do try to keep moving forward and not let that one bad experience ruin it for me.

I never post for that exact reason. You my be better off adding friends and messaging them individually. I'd be more than happy to friend you :) but I think giving up and leaving ds might make you feel worse and that's not what everyone is all about in this support group

I don't mean to be unkind, but the guy who replied to you, and who you thought was harsh, might just be a little upset to read someone thinks he's a "jerk" when they don't know what's happened. I think you're being unfair to criticise him publicly like this when all he was doing was offering you some advice. You can either take the advice, or you can leave it. He apologised immediately for any hurt caused, and I think you're out of order for calling him out again.

I remember your first post and the help you got, and I have read through the second post (topic 1) and the long and helpful replies you got. So yes, you do have to be ready to receive negative comments if your subject matter is as controversial as the one you posted.You won't always hear what you want to hear, and to say "I thought coming here was an alternative solution, but apparently, If I want to be able to express my thoughts, I better be ready to receive the negative comments, NOT all supportive." is critical of us as a community. We're not a bunch of yes-men who only tell you what you want to hear, we give advice. If you don't like that advice, and react so adversely to it, perhaps you're not ready. You do sound depressed, and the depression is stopping your objectivity.

The alternative to bearing your soul about something so intimate (I wouldn't post something so personal here, and I've been around for years) would be to make some friends and journal it, keeping your journal for friends only. Then you might get replies you think are more appropriate. There's also a group about healthy sex and one for relationships that might help you, but them again the answers could be just as challenging.

Take some time to get to know us, see how this place works, and you'll find the help and understanding you need.