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I don't mean to pry, but did he leave permanently, or is he willing to come back?

If the messiness is a key issue for him, then perhaps you need to talk to your daughters about cleaning up the mess. There are professional organizers who may be of help to you. I find that minimizing helps a lot; get rid of things you really do not need. Make sure that there is "a place for everything and everything in its place."

By the way, I am a bit of a slob too, so I believe I have a feeling for where you are coming from.

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I don't know if it is permanent or not he won't talk. The girls are trying slowly but surely.

Is there a possibility that the two of you could seek marriage counseling? Would he be willing to do that with you? I would hate to see the two of you split up, especially having young children.

My hubby laughs at the thought of going to counseling. He never is the one with problems.

How old are your children? You said you were married 28 yrs, so I imagine they are old enough to pick up after themselves. I don't think he left because of you, he was just tired of doing all the housework for not. I think the suggestion of a marriage counselor is a good idea or family counseling.

You are lucky he is still paying the bills and not left you high and dry. I am sorry you are going through this. Divorce and/or separation is hard on both parties.

I'm so sorry. I know how painful and frightening that must be for you.

Thank you for caring. this site helped me thru a rough evening. Its just so hard to lose my best friend and if truth be told my only friend.

I am sorry you are going through this also. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that he will return and you can resolve these issues and be a happy family once again.

Thanks for the warm thoughts.

My wife left me when I stopped meeting her needs for money and alcohol. The sad fact is, that marriage is a bit like a tug of war. When one person drops their end of the rope, the tug of war is over.

I relate soooooo very well to the loss of the friend. I was deluded enough to think my wife was my partner. Once she began to follow the addictive pathway, she never looked back. She was not an evil person. She was a sick person. I was sick, too. But I was blessed to get help. I learned how to get better.

If you can treat your depression; if you can act to better your own condition; if you can do your work without the energy you lack; you can make the changes. At least, that is how it worked for me. Maybe he will not come back. But you have a friend in the mirror who will never leave you. Why not try to find her, and make a friend of her?