Depression Support Group

You know,. I think that men without any kind of mental illness freak out when they get this news. I was married, 24, settled and we planned our baby, but my husband withdrew into himself, took jobs which sent him abroad as much as he could and got intensely grumpy! It isn't until it actually happens that you really know how you'll feel, and the day you take them home? Oh my flippin god!!

Try as hard as you can to consciously relax. Cry if you need to! Eat some carbohydrate like bread, crisps, chips! Not eating will make you feel weak and shakey. Chocolate is good first aid for non-eaters.

It's an amazing adventure, and when your baby arrives it will bring with it all the love you need. You will manage, you will rise to the challenge, and although there will be times when you feel out of your depth there will always be someone around to help.

Talk to your girlfriend about how you feel and perhaps look at a review of your regular anxiety meds. All the mummies and daddies here will love to help you out.

Take care. xoxox

First of all...congratulations!! And yes...even for couples that have been trying for sometime or think they are a hundred percent ready....find themselves absolutely terrified when that stick shows a plus time. You are definitly in the norm here. Yes your life is going to change tremendously. but having a child....you will feel more love and joy then you ever thought possible. And you sound like a very supportive partner. This will be a huge change for your girlfriend too....physically and emotionally. She will need you now more then ever. Even if she bites your head off once in awhile. It will happen. those pregnancy hormones are no joke! Maybe talk to other dads and see how they felt. Maybe they will have some advice for you on how to deal.

I would say that yes, it is normal to be worried!

You will go through phases where you feel elated, then worried, and back and forth.

If you make a point to go to the OBGYN appts with your girl friend, that should help. The doctor can help keep you up to date about what is happening with your future little bundle! Information is power!

Take a parenting class, that should help prepare you for what is in store. Basically if you are able to change a diaper, prepare a bottle, burp a baby, and give the baby a bath you are doing well!

There is extra stuff, like making silly sounds and baby talk to your newborn. Don't worry about that, it comes naturally!

And if you are still worried, most baby doctors have staff that will answer questions over the phone about what to do in most any situation!

You will do just fine!

thanks too you all you have been a great help :-) im good with kids and no all the basics supose it will take time to get my help around i just gotta try and stop worrying i guess thank you......

Yes my friend you wait intil you see that bundol of joy the frist time your jump up and down just like juice said Oh my fippen god!! you wait my friend you will see [[LOST]]

I hope you keep that feeling! Come back and talk to us more if you need to; there's always someone hanging around. Take care xox

It is always overwhelming to realize you just made a commitment to someone for the rest of your life. Babies are wonderful but are also A LOT of work. Especially until the sleep through the night. You will get tired, but you will make it. Love makes the process easier.