Depression Support Group

It may be their only way to seek help; remember that when you're in such emotional distress that your thinking is very irrational & they are extremely vulnerable..

You wouldn't know How to be a bitch if you tried.

I can only guess ... maybe nobody wants to die alone?

I've said similar many times within posts that someone does this on. I really couldn't care less how I sound, I am much more concerned with the people who may be emotionally traumatized by the sheer lack of concern by a person who posts that they have done *this* or already taken *that*. If it's true that they had truly done so, then their fate lies within their own hands (to get themselves to an ER) or maybe God's hands, but it is completely fucked to put it on a board where other depressed/anxious/etc people go and possibly throw them into a tailspin and anyone who makes a post such as that goes on ignore afterward.

As you said, posting how you feel is completely different than posting something that one has concretely done.

You dont sound like a bitch at all!

I wouldnt worry anyone here, I would say something really nice, and long. Then you wouldnt hear from me again.

Worrieing people like that, isnt right, but somepeople just want to know others care. I have been worried a shit load of times here. It just comes with the territory I guess.

I could understand if it was to say goodbye, but then as others have said, the mind isn't rational all the time.

I think it is easy -

I have no where to turn, I am so desperate for escape that I have acted on suicidal impulses, I do not want to die, but I cannot save myself, I am scared, I am alone and I am unable to speak to other people, I've been ignored for so long perhaps this will make people see the pain I am in and maybe, just maybe, they will care enough to finally help.

As has been said, when you are suicidal you are exactly rational. If you want to die it is blooming easy to do so, so if you "try" to commit suicide but have time/ space etc to talk to other people, then you aren't trying to die you are desperate for help, you are crying out for it and because you aren't rational or able to express emotions you can only speak through actions...

I really think it is an easy thing - people want help - that is why they post here and I would hate, truly hate, for someone in that desperate need to be put off posting here if they've hurt themselves because they think they'd be judged.

(coming from someone who has self harmed, attempted suicide etc etc, I know what it is to need help and not be able to express that properly, it'd be lovely if we were all perfect but we aren't)

The point is as you've said, is to seek help and yes it is a cry for attention, it isn't the best way to do it and I hope people realise they can say that they hurt and need love without fear, but really, for a lot of us our thinking doesn't work that way.

I've told people I am depressed and gotten nothing, I've turned up at the doctors covered in my own blood and got a response, that's taught me how to get the response I need at the time - not ideal, but true.

(Ps. I wouldn't post here if I was suicidal, I try not to worry others and cope on my own, but I completely understand and sympathise and really my heart goes out to anyone in that state of mind, where hurting themselves is the only way they feel they can get the care we all deserve.)

Sorry - *when you are suicidal you *aren't* exactly rational"

darn lack of an edit button.

I don't know (how someone could do this). I know I couldn't. I'd just do it and be very businesslike about it, no hollerin', no looking for someone to notice.

Because if they weren't there before, there's very little chance they are going to give a rat's about me at this point, speaking speculatively, and knowing what I do about fellow sufferers.

Plus, I also believe it would be a fairly callous and selfish thing to do, seen from the side of the post reader, where I've been many times.

It shows that there are many varying personality types and many levels of need, even within a group of people that share a common malady.

If I do it again I won't be on here beforehand as I want to get it right. The time I tried my husband got on my account and some friends here suffered such upset until I was found by the plod on the top of a car-park that I would never want to hurt them again. Like Skies, it would be very businesslike, and if someone comes on to say they took pills or whatever it's clear they still want to live. That's not a bad thing, not in any way, but I agree with Skies that there are many different people here and someone will always have a different point of view.

I understand that....it just isn't "me", though. And I was only explaining my thought processes. I can't judge or condemn anyone who is in a bad state of mind, as I am so familiar with the scorching loneliness this disease can bring to us.