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Why are you struggling with whether to leave, is it emotional bonds or is it financial?

This may sound harsh and I am sorry but I dont think you should be with a man that will not stand up to his family to defend your honor. To me he does not sound like "the one". I agree with everyone that is telling you to leave him. I know it is not easy but it cant be harder than staying at this point. The emotional abuse is not worth it. You need to find a way out. You deserve so much more. You need someone who is going to worship the ground you walk on. Hang in there. Let me know if I can do anything to help. I am here for you :)

Hi,

[HUGS] My heart goes out to you.

I listen to you speak, and from what you have expressed there's no doubt you sincerely care for this man.

Is he your first relationship? And I ask this question given more than less it's for this reason we as women sometimes stay locked into a bind and remain blinded.

Unfortunately, when you and I could say it should be fine for whomever to date /marry the person they choose, no matter ethnic /cultural background. Not everyone in society embrace this.

Given the behavior and attitude your man displays...it leaves one to ponder and question is genuinity for wanting to have you as his woman.
Once a man truly loves and wants to be with a woman despite what mom, dad or other relatives say..he knows without hesistation he have to speak on it and this can be done without disrespect.

At this point while you are without child for him, and this has already begun taking a toll on you, I would suggest, Yes, making an exit is the apparent thing to do for your sake.

Sometimes our resistance and not wanting to accept what is.. keeps us bound which in turn we set our ownselves up for GREAT and UNBELIEVABLE PAIN.

Allow yourself to remove the blinders and look in depth and all that is taking place and ask yourself..given this was a friend or somone other you care about that this was happening to.. what would your thoughts be.

You don't need to convince or persuade someone to defend your honor if they truly know what value you hold in their life.

insomniatonite, ask a VERY important question which you need to consider.

Know that we here want to encourage you on the right path that will uplift you for your well-being.

This is not my first relationship it is my longest relationship and the first guy that I have ever trusted and love. It's so hard for me to just get up and leave especially right now like I said I am an emotional wreck. I also don't have anywhere to go I'm an orphan and the people I call friends lately have turn their backs on me.

I agree - you deserve a guy that will stick up for you.....just like you would him. You're not asking too much.

If the relationship cannot got farther (marriage etc.) because of his family - and he won't change things - you do need to start making plans for YOUR life. Make a plan. Save or look for a place to live - You can't change him. (oh though we try :-) ) - he is not listening or understanding - which seems to me are basic respect for YOU and your feelings.