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Saturday Im putting my mom in to a adult family home for her dementia.
I know she will not want to stay and will throw a fit, how can I do this without her doing that or help her ? she has the mentality of a kid. I can take care of her anymore, she needs 24 hour care and we work full time. Any advise Posted on 09/16/09, 09:09 am |
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This will probably be rough at first. Could her Dr. prescribe an
anti-anxiety pill for a few days ? She may like it after she gets settled in, as there are people around all the time and she may like the company. Good luck. Let us know how it goes. 
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Yes her Dr did. I think after a week she will be fine and I will visit her all the time so she doesn't think I abandon her.
Thank you JAMR41
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After you are there explain to her that the doctor said she needs to stay until she is better. She will get mad at the doctor and not you. It worked for my grandmother. Each time we went to see her she would say take me home. I would then say I will ask the doctor if it is ok. Then tell her the doctor said not just yet. The staff knows how to deal with her. It is really hard to do.!!
Best of luck. Visit her often. Not just for her but for you.!!!!
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My Dad was put into a home a few weeks ago. He is very lucid in the am and has even called his lawyer to get him out. The staff there has been wonderful about helping redirect him. He was calling me constantly so they helped with that too. The staff know what to do so ask them for help!! They are wonderful. I also blamed it on the doctors. I said that they told me he had to stay there. This transfers the blame. They are like toddlers in their reasoning sometimes. It is very hard and I am still trying hard to adjust to all this. Good luck to you and remember that you are acting in her best interest.
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There's nothing easy about what you are having to do. I have said many times, it's so hard to become a mother to your Mom. The stress bcomes almost unbearable and the guilt is horrible too. You have to do what is best for your Mom and your family. I wish I had some wonderful words of wisdom that would make it all easier.... but I don't. Just know you are not abandoning her and maybe when you aren't so tired and stressed you will enjoy the time you spend with her a lot more. You are not alone in this journey. Let us know how things are going. Hugs & Prayers, Joy
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You have made the decision that a lot of us are dreading. Please be good to yourself and know that you did all that you could. This is a horrible disease and takes its toll on everyone. Will keep you in my prayers. Good luck
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