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hi guys. please help. over the years its gotten so bad. heres my story, as i grew up i got hurt by so many "close friends" who "dropped" me when i got sick or flared. slowly it became easier to stay home and not go out and make friends or keep friends, instead of risking dejection, to this day my hubby has to BEG me to go out, even just out to watch a hockey game with some of his friends!i used to be so social and happy and outgoing, now if i do go out all i worry about is looking wierd to other people or haveing nothing in common to talk about with to other girls my age. most girls my age are going to college and have an awesome social life, i did'nt even graduate and am a stay at home wife!!!i know, i'm hard on myself, but i want to get out of this boring lifestyle!!!its not ME!!but i'm so scared and its so "safe" to stay home:(help please
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Have you considered counseling? I would work with someone who's trained in behavorial counseling. They can help you get over your anxiety about socializing. It's very understandable and I'm sorry you're feeling this way, but please know that being a stay-at-home wife is just as valuable as any other career. You have a lot to offer and to say and it may take awhile, but I believe if you force yourself to do some things, it will become even easier with time. You may even meet another woman who's had similar experiences. 
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I would invite you out to a party or something. Unfortunately you live in Canada and I live in California.
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awww.thanx guys!i had to smile about the invite to the party!yes i've considered counseling but right now dont have the 80-90 $ an hour it takes:( and yes, i'm working on forceing myself!!!
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not really advice, but OMG my husband and I have had exactly the same conversation tonight. Because it just goes on and on I think friends DO find it hard, and both my husband AND I find some just start to get sceptical, which hurts so much.
My mantra is to "DO NICE STUFF" this disease is so awful, you've just got to try to enjoy what you can. Hubby said tonight "Remember they have lives too and they probably don't mean to let us down." I treat myself to nice make up, nice clothes when I can, maybe a box of chocolates or a night out just hubby and I. With the make up and a nice outfit or two to choose from, i always end up feeling better. I don't feel great at parties any more either (Will I be OK? Will I last the night? Will I have an accident?) but I can still enjoy other stuff like being with my kids at a zoo or the stuff I already mentioned. Set a goal and try to do do it once a week/month whatever. It DOES make you feel better when you can manage it.
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