What is Coming Out
"Coming out of the closet" describes the voluntary public announcement of one's (often homosexual or bisexual) sexual orientation, sexual attractions or gender identity. Being "out...
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I have had threesome with 4 different women. No not all at once. I was married to my ex husband for 4 years and his fantasy was a threesome. So I then gave him what he wanted because I was curious. Most women are because that seems to be most men's fantasy. Anyway, I did it and liked it. Then we did it again with the same woman. Soon we moved on to someone else in our bed. Then a bad hurricane came in my town and devistated it. We didn't do this anymore for 3 years after that happened. I had a lot of jeaulousy issues after catching my husband watching old videos we made during this experience. After 4 yrs of marriage my husband wanted us to go back to having threesomes to spice up our sex life. Actually, a woman had approached me and my husband wouldn't stop with it. It turned out that she didn't want anything to do with my husband so this started to cause problems. I ended up fallin in love with this person because she was my good friend for so long. My husband and I had a lot of problems after that and we ended up getting divorced. Now I find myself with another man but I can't help but think what life would be like I stayed with her. My family disapproves of my behavior as much as most how are against this. My problem now is I am in a monogomist relationship with the man I want to start a family with. I told him I no longer want to be with another woman as long as I'm with him but I still post that I am bisexual. I have had sex with women and I am not ruling out that I would never do it again. So, my problem is am I still considered bisexual? I still check out women and men when they walk by. If my boyfriend asked me right now to do a threesome I would want to do it but I would say no because I know all the problems it caused me in the past. I may never go back to being with another woman but I still was so doesn't that still make me a bisexual? My boyfriend told me that if I don't go back to it them I'm not gay but I still have this attraction. Right now it's not towards anyone in particular but I still look. Should I change my profile to being straight because I haven't had sex again with a woman and may never go back or am I considered bi because I went there in the first place and so now I'm labelled?
Posted on 08/13/09, 10:08 pm |
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I don't think you need to worry so much about labels. There are really too many of them out there so I wouldn't get lost in that world. What's important is how you feel/felt. And just because you're no longer having sex with women, it does not change the fact that you are attracted to them and would sleep with them if you were single. So the bottom of the line is, yes I think you are bisexual but don't get caught up in all of the labels that people use. 
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Sweetie,
You are who you are. I think about women and check them out all the time....because women are hot! I am so glad I found this site because now I have someone to talk to. I am married but would be with a woman again in a heartbeat. Hubby would love it if I found a girlfriend, but I havent been so lucky. Have a great day ok? Brooke
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Do you think that you might be bi?
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You dont need to label yourself as being anything if you dont want.
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Ladies: labels are for your clothing, not for those of us who love different.
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jimmygirl: i love your answer! i totally agreeeee
you have no need to label yourself. I'm being told that now cause I'm not sure what I am and its a relief that I don't have to be labeled. You can be married and like women and that's that. That is who you are. Embrace it!
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I agree with Jimmygirl. I couldn't have said it better myself. You can't really choose who you fall for. Straight people don't have to go around saying their straight all the time, why should you have to label yourself as something? You are who you are, not a label.
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I agree about the labels and shit. I mean I like boys a lot. Sexually, physically, emotionally whatever. But I hate being called gay. maybe its the stigma thats attached to it. but isn't that what gay means? Boys liking other boys? (it also means girls liking girls but whatever) And If I don't want to be called gay does that mean I don't like boys? I donno. I'm so confused!!!
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